How does a lonely 56 yr old man find love?

Answer 1

It isn't that difficult. You can place an ad on Match.com or SeniorFriendFinder. There is a matching site here on Yahoo as well. Remember though that these will only get you contacts. You still have to email and then perhaps chat and then talk on the phone and then meet in person. It casts a wider net than just trying to bump into someone at the supermarket. If you have specific intimate interests there are sites that cover these as well like AdultFriendFinder and Sexyads. If you like plus sized women BBWFinder and BBWPersonalsPlus are good.

The problem with some matching sites is that they allow too many bogus ads either from people promoting adult websites or scammers from Nigeria, or women who are simply seeking american citizenship, these are typically from Russia and the Phillipines. I was on one supposed matching site once that actually sent fake messages from nonexistent women. These messages stopped as soon as I paid for the service and then started again when my subscription ran out.

I'm not trying to promote any particular matching site. The ones I've mentioned are ones I'm actually familiar with. Match.com is the largest matching service. SeniorFriendFinder might be a good match for someone your age. However most sites have searches that allow looking based on age. You can place ads on these for free and look them over before you pay for a subscription which is necessary to actually contact someone. The problem with eHarmony is that you both have to be paid members and it is expensive. Almost every other matching site only requires the person sending the message to be a paid member, replies are free. Also, some allow contacts from non-paid members for an extra fee.

Finally, I will say that when you start talking to someone on the internet it is very easy to get excited because you don't really know the person. You can start thinking that this person is the perfect match without really knowing that much about them. Make sure you cover your likes and dislikes, your hobbies and things you like to do together. Talking on the phone is also better than chatting online. However, you will still have to meet and spend time together to develop a real relationship. The activities that others have mentioned has the advantage of seeing and talking to the person right away.

Remember that if use matching sites not everyone you contact will reply back. Some people who do reply back will not match after you exchange more information. Some people may be ruled out after exchanging pictures or talking on the phone and of course not everyone you meet in person will be a good match. Some things you just cannot tell until you actually spend time together. So, activities are a smaller pool of people to choose from but you get quick evalution. Dating sites are a much larger pool but evaluation is slower. However, there are people in both areas if you look. There is no need to be desperate or think that you have to be alone forever.

Finally, I should say that you should think about what it is that is good about you. What do you like to do for fun, what do you like to talk about? Things like golf or poker are good if you are a big fan of these however if you are really only looking for a date then they probably won't work as well. If you love to dance or watch movies while cuddling on the couch you need to someone who likes these as well.

I'm over forty. My late wife died from congestive heart failure after I took care of her everyday for eight months in home hospice care. It isn't easy to start back dating from that. However, I've now met someone who I think is a good match. I like camping and sailing and she likes these as well. Sailing is not a trivial thing with me since I'm building one sailboat and have another one besides. I've even thought about sailing from Florida to the Bahamas. Someone who doesn't like the outdoors or is afraid of water wouldn't match as well. We've also talked for hours about nothing in particular and spent some time together and I'm happy when I'm with her. Just make the effort.

Answer 2

Oh boy, well here comes an answer you may consider rude. First off, you are 16 and he is 25?? Any 25 year old man or woman who is with a 16 year old has some very SERIOUS problems. Oh ya, he is married too. So right there are two very big reasons to stay away from this loser. Do you know what he is doing with you? He doesn't love you or want to be with you. He wants to sleep with you! Thats it, plain and simple. No matter how "mature" you think you may be at 16, you are still a child and have absolutely no clue about real life. Do yourself a favor and stay away from this guy. Live your life and be a teenager. Edit: I just went back and actually read the whole thing. This guy doesn't even live in the same state?? And you really think that he loves you and will come to be with you. Oh man. YOU ARE BOOTY CALL FOR WHEN HE IS IN TOWN. Do you really even want to be with a man who has a wife and children and would do this to them. OPEN YOUR EYES!!

Answer 3

Find a lonely 56 old woman.

Answer 4

Personal ads on sites like match.com are a great way to meet people. That's how I met my husband. If that's not your style then you have to get out there and meet people... attend church functions... volunteer for a charitable organization... join a group that shares your hobbies or interests... take a singles cruise! Find a venue that suits you and keep putting yourself out there. Good luck!

Answer 5

i would hope so. i want my 57 year old mom to find it. She started meeting people playing poker at some local bars that are free. if you like poker you should go to a game and play. Plenty of people your age there www.apl1.net if you dont drink its not a problem most people dont drink that play it. good luck in your search

Answer 6

I know someone close to that age who was wondering the same thing. I keep telling her to try online dating but she doesn't seem to be into it. It is difficult to answer the question when I don't know anything about where you live though.

Answer 7

go to church.

You may find another Love that is more fulfilling, plus, you may find a love to share in His Love

Answer 8

mastubation,mental illness,public toilets and get a pet its over buddy lets face it

Answer 9

Match.com and you can hook up with my aunt that walks around our house naked.

Answer 10

join a gym, volunteer