when you support yoyr new boyfriend withowt job and he drinks when has a job do you keep him?

Question

He said he lost his job when we met.I supported him but when he had a job he spent his money on drinking,dressing,beeing nervous.HEsaid he doesn't want to do anything in the house as it isn't his house Maybe he wanted me to give him my house.What would you do if you were me?

Answer 1

I'd dump him and kick him to the curb so fast it would make his head spin.

Answer 2

I would go back to being single!!

No guy is worth this... It's one thing if you support someone while they are looking for work if they would do the same thing for you in return. It's another to let yourself get walked on like this.

And if 2 people are living together and only one works outside the house the other does the housework, or at least a bigger part of it. If they both work, they split it. No matter who's name is on the deed.

Pack his bags and tell him to get out. Take some time and find out who you are and what you want out of a relationship. Recover your self esteem (because if you're with someone like that you must not hold yourself in very high regard). And once you know what you want and realize your own worth find someone who measures up!!

Answer 3

He needs to show that he appreciates you holding him down. I was in a similar situation but my mentality was totally different. Since I was not contributing financially, I contributed by doing the bulk of the house work and any projects that needed to be done. When I found employment after 3 months, we began to split the work more. He should be very grateful that your heart was large enough to do that for him. Being in that situation I know how stick things can get. You need to set the record straight with him and tell him things need to change. If he does not take heed, then you must do what you have to. There are plenty of guys out here that are willing to take care of you, not vice versa!

Answer 4

Based upon the way you worded this I think you know what to do.

He is using you as a place to hang out. He is not a responsible person and as such will continue to be a big problem for you until he decides you are not giving enough and moves on.

Give him the old ultimatum. Either get with it, get and keep a job and quite drinking, or move on to the next poor soul.

Wish you luck.

Answer 5

First, if you have a boyfriend who has no job, you need
a new boyfriend. Something is wrong with men nowadays
they seem to want to live off women and any man who does that is not a man in my book. I have seen so many
men like this who don't work, find a women who does and
takes no responsibility at all. As long as you let him get by with it, he'll never do any better. Put your foot down
and demand respect and demand he get a job or get
out of YOUR house !!!!!!!

Answer 6

why keep this guy around, if he doesnt have a job now, what makes you think he can support you later on in life,what makes you think he can be there for kids, what if you get pregnate and then what?will he be there for you and the kids when you have to take maternity leave? you are the only one making money right now, he is sitting on his azz on your couch, watching tv, drinking, being lazy. get him out of your house, you have to clean up after his mess, why cant he do it? because it is not his house?if it is not his house then tell him to leave, if he doesnt help you, then why do you have him around? why would you want him to be around, what good is he for you.what wiegh will be lifted if you have him out of your life? what would it feel like to have your home back, yes it might be lonely in the begining, but you wont have a freeloader in your life anymore and you should go out and meet a guy that will there for you and will take you out. you deserve better and need better. good luck.

Answer 7

I went through that kind of a relationship with my first husband. He worked but still drank and made me feel like I owed him the privilege of being with him. He is only making a fool out of you, you deserve better and should just give him the boot that he works in. Follow your heart, it will never do you wrong. Unlike some people do.He is using you for his sole gain. A true partner in a relationship gives 100% but only asks for 50%, as should be.

Answer 8

You probably shouldn't keep him around, but if you love him, you are not going to listen to any of these people on here anyways. Maybe you should try to get him help with his drinking problem. Stop cooking for him for a while and stop doing his laundry for a while, maybe he'll see that if he don't do it, it won't get done. He'll be pissed, but women have to do that stuff all the time. Good Luck, I don't know how us women get ourselves hooked up with these losers. I have one of those men, too. God Bless us both!!!

Answer 9

Sounds like your boyfriend suffers not only from a self esteem problem but also an alcohol problem - the two are usually linked and the prognosis is until they Ask For Help!(Doctor/Counseling/A.A.) then things usually go from bad to worse!!

Answer 10

Dump him- he is a bone-idle lazy shiftless shithead. He wants somebody to keep him, feed him, clothe him, house him, pick up after him, and all without turning a hand to work????? I dont think so petal; dump the bastard- he is an absolute waster and he is using you as a soft touch. Do you want to do this for the rest of your life??? Move on. Good luck.

Answer 11

get rid of him...apparently he doesn't know what it means to be in a relationship...its 50/50...not 90/10 with you doing everything and him just being there for show...as far as the house, as long as he is living there it is his house and he should be helping...his name might not be on the title but it is still partially his...he lives there doesn't he...maybe you should start charging him rent if he wants to continue to live like a renter.