2006-07-25 07:04:06 · 13 answers · asked by Tabor 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I know that this answer will fly in the face of what most of us hear all the time. You need to know that this potential spouse is your best friend. I know, I know. Everything you have heard from others is just the opposite. But listen to this. You will go to bed with this person. You will wake up next to this person. You will share your most intimate thoughts with this person. You have to trust and love this person with all your heart, mind and being. Why not a best friend? If the potential spouse is not currently your best friend, begin the process of making this man or woman your best friend before marrying him/her.
My wife completes me, and fulfills the need I have to be intimate - not just physically (although this is part of it), but emotionally having the ability to open up and trust I am safe with her. I can share anything with her and it stays with her - and the same goes with her feelings about me.
Love is an emotion - an action of the will. You can turn it off and on at will. But friendship is another matter. Friendship is trust and compatability. Friendship is something to work for.
2006-07-25 08:02:53 · answer #1 · answered by gratifythespirit 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't look at people as potential spouses...but some things that are important for me re: any guy I date are chemistry, trust, honesty, communication, and a sense of humor...
2006-07-25 14:09:44 · answer #2 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty
2006-07-25 14:17:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
True love. Without that, you're just lying to yourself and the other person. Love isn't something that you like about someone, it is an entity that overtakes you. You would never be able to live a single day without this person, so you get married. It's not all fun and games, but if you're in love, it doesn't really matter.
2006-07-25 14:19:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would look for humbleness mixed with being a Committed and sincere Christian, not one that was just outward looking good in front of others...He would have to have a sense of humore,and know how to take a joke.
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He would have to care and treasure me, and treat me special, and after we were married.....we would still continue marriage counseling every so often, to make sure our marriage wouldn't grow stale.
I've been married for a long time, .....so I know what it takes. ha.
2006-07-25 14:12:34 · answer #5 · answered by tuna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Complete trust
2006-07-25 14:09:40 · answer #6 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
someone that can put you before their selves , someone that can fully love you and be fully loved by you. Someone with a good heart and give goodness to other people,shareing,and honesty. And to love God ,family and little children. If you have all of these quilities going, then how could it fail?
2006-07-25 14:33:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust!!
2006-07-25 14:08:10 · answer #8 · answered by willinkc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good communication skills!
Good temperament
Financial stability
Common interets/hobbies
Compatability
2006-07-25 14:16:17 · answer #9 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably have to go with honesty
2006-07-25 14:08:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋