Is it the wives responsibility to cook for their husbands?

Answer 1

I don't think it is, necessarily. Each partner should do what they're good at, and like doing. Me, I love cooking and baking and grocery shopping, but my fiance hates going to the grocery store, so I do the cooking and shopping. On the other hand, I hate, hate, hate cleaning, but he doesn't mind it, so he does the cleaning.
Since we both work full time, it doesn't seem fair for just me to do all the cooking and cleaning, so we split it up.
When I was growing up, my dad was the stay-at-home parent, and my mom worked full-time, so he cooked and cleaned and took care of my brother and me.
I think it really depends on your situation, and each person's strengths.

Answer 2

Some religions believe it is. They believe the wife should stay home with the children, and serve all needs of the man, including cooking.

When women's lib rolled around, many women found themselves out in the work force and not having time to cook and take care of the home like in the olden days.

I think it depends on the situation. I am currently and at-home mom, and cook for my husband every night. I have no problem with it, as I love to cook and experiment with new dishes. I also love to see the look on his face when I've outdone myself on a dish, and love the compliments. However, there are times where I don't even want to look at the kitchen, much less cook. That's when he'll take a turn, and he likes to cook as well, so it's no big deal for us.

My sister is with a man who is used to his ex-wife bowing and scraping to him. Although she works 50+ hours/week, he expects her to rush home and cook him dinner, no matter what else is going on, and serve him as well. I had no problem with the idea of cooking when I worked, but I don't bow and scrape to anyone. Therefore, my husband and I would work it out on who was doing the cooking, usually the person who got home first.

I used to hate cooking because I didn't know how really. I was once told by a friend that I'd know I truly love a man when I'd be willing to cook up a good dish for him. Now I believe it to be true.

Answer 3

I agree that it's not our responsibility, it is usually the norm. But guess what, times have changed. Now that women are working just as hard as men outside of the home, it almost unreasonable for a man to expect us to work all day, pick up the kids from daycare, do homework, do housework, do you and then cook too. Darling, that's more than a full day there. Don't get me wrong, it's nothing wrong with doing it but you need to share the responsibility or at least do something like have everything ready or wash the dishes or do something to help out. So get that wives responsibility out of your head and program yourself to our responsibility.

Answer 4

Not if the two of them work full time jobs. Splitting the chores would be best. But by all means, cooking is not a responsibility by just the wife. I know plenty of husbands that lend a helping hand in the kitchen at the end of the day.

Answer 5

Well, that depends on how you look at it. If you both work, then I would say it is both of your responsibilties. My bf and I share the cooking responsibilities. If your wife is a stay at home wife/mom, then yes, I would have to say she should be the one cooking, but on occaision, it would be nice if you cooked for her to show her how much you appreciate what she does for you, or take her out to dinner. In the dark ages/older times, the wife was expected to cook, clean, etc....but now that more women are working, it is not fair to say it is still the woman's job. Men are just as capable of cooking when both people are working.

Answer 6

I am currently having this argument with my grandfather who seems to think it's my "job" to cook dinner for my new husband. He actually elaborated enough to say my marriage wasn't going to work if I couldn't keep my husband happy. I do cook for my husband some of the time, however, I also work full time and go to school part time so I'm working just as hard as he is. For the most part my husband and I take turns cooking meals. We find that works for us, we also take turns with laundry and other things that are typically supposed to be "MY JOB". I feel like assuming that it's a job is making the wife feel inferior to her husband, I don't mind doing it from time to time or switching turns out but I will not be TOLD that it's my job to do it, if I decide to do it than that is fine with me but it will not be automatically expected.

I'm pretty sure I can keep my husband happy without cooking dinner every night.

Answer 7

Yes and no. If your home all the time or home when it's convenient to have a meal prepared then yes. However, if you work outside the home and your hours tend to have you working days and evenings it should be a fifty/fifty thing. When it comes to the home the mentality of most men is that I take care of the outside (lawn,fixtures and cars), while the wife takes care of the inside (cleaning and cooking). But it's all in how you start a relationship that determines what is expected and what is not.

Answer 8

According to the "old school" the wife cooked and cleaned and the husband worked and brought home the "bacon". In today's world, if you both work you both share the responsibility of cooking, cleaning, and bringing home the "bacon".

Answer 9

Well, responsibility? No! I cook for my husband because I want to! He works very very hard,and so do I but he puts in more hours, so I cook out of respect for him, and we eat together watching house hunters on HGTV> lol.:)

Sometimes he cooks, ( he's actually better than I am preparing meals!)
If he is demanding meals, just tell him sweetly that you would love to cook meals, but a nice attitide would make it easity for you! ...never hurts to be a little sure of yourself and put your hair up when you say it.......*wink)

Answer 10

I dont know that I would say it is their responsibility, but that is the norm. Thats what wives do, just like men take care of the yard and the garage!