My ex is somebody i cannot just forget. I am now trying to move on since she told me that she is seeing somebody else. Its been a month and 23 days since I last wrote to her and I don't feel that bad. She sends an e-mail and feelings of anger and frustration and of missing having her rushed in to my mind as well as jealousy.
Right now I live in the dominican Republic, she lives in Australia, I do production for tv and film, she does med. I think that we have 2 different lifestyles yet for some reason there is a bond. Unfortunately my emotions are stronger than my reasoning and under these circumstances I don;t mind because I tend to follow what my heart says. But I do wish that I didn;t have these strong feelings anymore. More pain than Joy
So this is my dilemma. Should I write or not write to her e-mail. She thought about me would like to hear from me but I really don't know if I want to make contact again. We shared time together. We have history. How should I play it or act?
2006-07-25 06:54:28 · 7 answers · asked by gio 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If you are really trying to let go of her than don't contact her; it will only make your pain linger. Time will eventually heal the pain that you are feeling:I am speaking from personal experience. As long as you keep in contact with her the longer it will take for you to get over her. Trust me. Let her go completely. You said that she has someone else, so why is she still contacting you? Make a clean and complete break; If you do one day you will see her and none of those feelings will be there for her and you will be glad that you did.
2006-07-25 07:04:57 · answer #1 · answered by kristin747 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there is a "right" answer to this. You will make your own decision and then live with the results.
Of course it is hard for you right now to talk to her. I'm not sure how long you have been separated, but it's always hard to hear about an ex entering a new romance and wondering what might have been and noting what you no longer have. Your feelings are very typical and common for this situation.
I think that, if it hurts you too badly to respond and you really want a clean break so you can heal, it would be okay to wish her well and all the joy in the world, then tell her that you really need to be alone right now (i.e., not hear from her), and that when you are ready, you will get in touch with her again.
You need time and space. One day, you might be able to deal with hearing about her relationship(s), but maybe not. Just take one day at a time.
(I think not responding at all will ruin any future chances to remain friends, or at least make it hard.)
If you are willing to endure the pain, though, or you care about her enough to want to remain friends, then you can continue the friendship through e-mail. It will definitely hurt, but if you value having her in your life at all or want to keep the door open, this is an option.
It really depends on what you want to see happen, and what you ultimately feel like doing. I think that what I've described is what the results of each of these choices will be.
Good luck, rest easy, choose what you most want and what you think is best, and don't second-guess yourself after you make your decision. You need some peace of mind and rest for your heart.
2006-07-25 07:09:04 · answer #2 · answered by Jennywocky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will never forget her because you are inlove with her and when you have feelings for someone like this they will never truly go away yes time away from them will make it easier and you may move on to someone else and fall inlove again but you will never forget her and a month and 23 days is nothing and if it makes you feel better to write her do and let her know exactly how you feel but dont obsess yourself with it find new friends and interest and stay busy and you will learn to live without her it wont be easy but it will get a little better with time but i have found out in my life that when you truly love someone you should let them know no matter what but also you have to respect yourself and do what is right for you and if you are meant to be together in life you will be and as they say it is better to have loved than never loved at all and they say that love isnt suppose to be painful i do not believe that one bit
2006-07-25 07:10:20 · answer #3 · answered by readyhead42@yahoo.com 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time and getting together with someone else
A trick that has always worked for me, is, I concentrate on all the things I didn't like about the person (there are always some, which one needs to gloss over in order to stick with someone) and show myself I am better off without. Just the fact that she doesn't want to be with you any more, should be a good start.
Hoe miserable is she just for that?
2006-07-25 07:00:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a time for departure even when there's no certain place to go.
It takes a minute to have a crush on someone, an hour to like someone, and a day to love someone -- but it takes a lifetime to forget someone.
Trying to forget someone you loved is like trying to remember someone you never knew
you never really stop loving someone. you just learn to try to live without them
2006-07-25 07:25:36 · answer #5 · answered by Your best friend 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in case you be responsive to which you need to enable him bypass then do it. even although deep down interior you dont desire to occasionally you purely ought to. you need to pass on in existence & conserving somebody you be responsive to you need to enable bypass does not help. you be responsive to that announcing whilst one door closes yet another one opens. nicely thats going to happen its no longer the tip. its in basic terms yet another begining. talk it over with him perchance you 2 in basic terms want it sluggish aside. Then perchance after a whilst issues could artwork out with you 2. yet till then i say pass on. and supply him somewhat area.
2016-10-08 07:36:31 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You let go and move on.
2006-07-25 07:01:58 · answer #7 · answered by cheerlegs07 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋