I'm afraid he's going to be weirded out by it. A few years ago, when we were first dating, he asked me repeatedly if i'd ever been with a girl because I told him i'd thought about it before. But over the years, i've acted as if it was a passing phase but the truth is, i've been fantasizing about being with a girl for a long time.
I've been online looking at porn to satisfy me since I don't know if he'll ever be down with me being with a girl. Should I be honest and tell him I still have these feelings. I mean, I don't think i'm going to wither away and die if I can't be wit ha girl, I just want to get over the curiosity.
I'm a Christian , too. Does this mean I'm going to Hell?
2006-07-25 06:34:11 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
It is your flavor...just do what you want.. life is once...No, do not worry , I have pondered if there is such a thing as hell.. I really think this life here on Earth is the hell for everyone...When it is our time we will go to the "Good Place".
2006-07-25 06:47:53 · answer #1 · answered by italliansweety67 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are not going to Hell. I am a christian too. I am bisexual and my boyfriend kind of treats it like it is a passing phases. But I only think he acts like that because he does not want me to leave him for a girl, so he pretends like it is not true and that makes him feel better. He never telling me I am going to hell or that I am evil he is actually pretty supportive in his own way. But I think you should tell you fiance. Most guys fantasize about girl on girl action. It will be ok, just tell him the truth. Congrates on getting married and I hope you have a wonderful life with you man.
2006-07-25 06:44:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you're not going to hell. I base that on extensive study of the Bible and my own experiance. There are plenty of gay Christians. They believe that the Word of Christ trumps the word of Paul.
Second, you really need to discuss this with your financee. In fact, I see three options here:
1) Never discuss it and lead a miserable closeted life where you eventually become distant from and resent your husband until you either divorcee or cheat on him.
2) Talk about it with him and he dumps you. Leaving you free to figure this bisexual thing out for yourself.
3) Talk about it with him and with time and communication, it is fine.
Guess which one I think is worse? My experiance is that it is better to be alone and happy then together and miserable. When I told my ex that I was bi, he called me a whore. I'm glad he did though, because if I were still with him today I wouldn't be the happy, well adjusted, and calm bisexual I am today. I would have been stuck in a life where I wasn't me, but instead who he thought I was. And living a lie eats away at you, I only did it for 2 years. I can't imagine doing it for a lifetime.
2006-07-25 06:49:21 · answer #3 · answered by dani_kin 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not going to hell. Being bi is a normal part of life and today I would think most women are at least curious. You have also the option of being with a women to see if you are really bi first and, if you are, then talk to him. If not then just drop it.
Is this cheating? Yea, but it would also resolve more issues than it creates. If you turn out to be bi then you let him know you are bicurious and would like to talk to him about it.
In addition, just becuase you like the idea does not mean you will nec. act upon it. Then again, if he is a normal guy (not a bible thumper) then he will get over the initial shock and likely want to join in with you. That's something you need to figure out too; do you want him with you and another girl.
As for my wife and I -- bi 3 and 4 somes have been fun and expanded our enjoyment. But something where we ironed out the rules in advance.
2006-07-25 11:09:03 · answer #4 · answered by Who me? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you truly imagine that those telling you that you're destined for hell have some type of secret expertise about who will pass to heaven and who will pass to hell? I easily have a feeling you do not count number on such nonsense and also you experience somewhat in charge about it. you say you've struggles with faith, it is because you recognize the reality on your heart (reality is there is not any god or existence after lack of existence) yet you experience in charge about it because of ways you've been taught your total existence. there are multiple solid atheist web pages and communities on-line, I propose vacationing them. also study The God fable by Richard Dawkins. solid success on your de-non secular adventure. :)
2016-10-15 04:53:09 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means you are a liar/Stop making up story's are you even a girl?
You said you have sex with rich married men who buy you cars in an upscale neighborhood.Now a week later you are a christian who is getting married but likes girls.LOL
Don't people bother reading you other questions?
I don't want to be mean but compulsive lying is a mental disease and can be cured please seek help.
2006-07-27 04:38:31 · answer #6 · answered by Lilly K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now tell me, if god would send you to hell for wanted to make love to a woman, what kinda god is that. As to you hubby, it sounds like hes not ready to hear this. Perhaps, as many dom tihs is something for you to do and keep private.
2006-07-25 06:52:32 · answer #7 · answered by aprilx4u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you were really a christian you wouldnt be having those thoughts... you know what the bible says about that sort of thing, you probably wont go to hell, but you will be punished for your actions so why even try it.... and if i were your boyfriend, id sure as hell leave your ***
2006-07-25 06:46:43 · answer #8 · answered by shortyonwheelz2005 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
being bicurious does NOT mean you're going to Hell...being gay does NOT mean you're going to Hell, either. Be who you are and do what makes you comfortable.
2006-07-25 08:06:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah u are going to hell, and they will have 1 million channels for free but will be playing crppy american idol on all channels all day long...
2006-07-25 06:46:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋