Help a friend stop annoying people in a nice way?

Question

I have a friend who is a lovely person. The problem is she has this habit of driving people away by annoying them.

She is in her mid thirties and desperately wants to be in a relationship, but as soon as a guy shows any interest in her, she becomes very clingy and almost stalker-like and scares them off.

With friends, people find it hard to be around her as she is either talking about herself - often repeating the same stories - or interrogating people for information they don't necessarily want to give.

I've known her now for approx. 5 years, and the same patterns repeat themselves over and over. I really like her - she has many good points and a good heart. I would like to see her happy and settled but I can see how her behaviour often prevents this. How can I bring it to her attention without it sounding like a personal attack?

Answer 1

There are two ways to deal with this

a) you can be honest and tell her bluntly. She may be hurt, but then she may see the light and change her ways - SLOWLY

b) you can try dropping hints- discreetly

Answer 2

That's a hard question to answer.... you could take her aside and tell her that one of the guys was interested in her, but she had come on a bit too strong....maybe next time she could play a little hard to get and that might work for her. I wish you all the best, it sounds like you're a great friend. (",)