He still says it if I say it first but he refuses to say it first.
2006-07-25 06:21:22 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You are hosed. You better get a good lawyer now!!! Transfer all of the money from your joint bank account to a private account. Hire a PI to see who he is sleeping with and stay sober!
2006-07-25 06:27:24 · answer #1 · answered by jeepfaust 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Does he really "refuse" to or he just doesn't? Very often when men become comfortable in their relationship they take for granted that you know he loves you. Because he doesn't say it, doesn't mean he doesn't love you, he's comfortable and now probably gets preoccupied by other things. But I agree he should tell you so as most people need reassurance in a relationship....men too. Ask him about it. Ask him why he doesn't say he loves you first and often. think back to the things you did together that made him say it often......just a thought.
2006-07-25 13:29:17 · answer #2 · answered by flashpro 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some men just don't think it's necessary to say it, they just assume you know it. It shows up in the little things he does like a kiss on the back of the neck, sitting down beside you on the sofa with a caress, or a certain look or wink of the eye, etc. If not then you need to ask him why he doesn't do this once in awhile and let him know it's important to you.
2006-07-25 13:31:02 · answer #3 · answered by roncarolhillsstupid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't want to send you all off on the deep end or anything because I do not know what kind of husband that you have, I am not sure how long you guys have been together or anything, see the thing is he may be under stress or something, See I don't know how many times he use to tell you "I Love You" before now but, you do, you know him better than he knows himself at times because that is how it is in marriage, I can say this because I to am married, do you feel like something is wrong in your relationship or something?
What do your heart tells you truthfully?
Only you know how he is, sometime guys tend to forget that we need to hear it from them more than they need to hear it, sometimes they feel like that their actions should be good enough but, it's not.
If stopped making love to me let's say just because you are tried more often now because of the kids or something, then He will think something is wrong in your love for him because that is what he needs from you as his wife to reassure him of your love for me as you need to hear "I Love You"
I am in no way trying to justify any actions that he may be committing, I just can not tell you what it is you are looking to hear.
I hope things work out for you & your husband for the best....
2006-07-25 13:43:14 · answer #4 · answered by Lil Angel 68 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I remember telling my ex wife that I don't love you anymore and I don't want to say i love you anymroe and want to end it.. why she threat me divorce me 4 time in 6 months and now I did told her how I feel and she told me how can you stop loving me. How??? I told her you made me stop loving you.
Remarried and been great 9 years and I tell my wife and kids everyday I love them If I stay married to that dumb woman I would never be remarried again.
2006-07-25 13:34:42 · answer #5 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do not worry, and do not push him, that is the guy things they think after a while their loved one does not need to hear "Love U" and they have to know it any way...
just that is the way it is
take it easy and do not make a big deal out of it, but if you like you can tell him that you very much enjoy when he tells that he loves you...
good luck
2006-07-25 13:26:25 · answer #6 · answered by Me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel ya hon. My hubby does that too. It might be that he just thinks by now you KNOW it. Mine didn't realize that while I KNOW, I still need to HEAR it! Some men aren't as naturally affectionate as we are. So you have to remind them. He's probably not trying to hurt your feelings, he's just being a hubby.
2006-07-25 13:27:48 · answer #7 · answered by Cat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HMMMM....maybe he has just gotten so comfortable with you that he thinks that you already know. I would ask him why he isn't saying these affectionate words to you anymore. I am sure that he doesn't really realize that he is hurting your feelings.
2006-07-25 13:25:00 · answer #8 · answered by swtz69drmz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's a man, stop giving him sex. Tell him that when he starts telling you that he loves you then you will start showing him that you love him.
2006-07-25 13:57:08 · answer #9 · answered by angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mAY BE TIME TO WONDER WHAT HE IS DOING. Or perhaps change up the routine between you and him
2006-07-25 13:24:49 · answer #10 · answered by machinerytech2001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋