2006-07-25 06:11:00 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
People in general are going to disappoint you for the rest of your life. How you deal with it soley depends on how much you can handle. If someone disappoints me, I usually try to decide what I can and cannot accept. There are some things that after you think about them, really aren't a big deal at all and at other times there are things that should be addressed. Hopefully this is something you can get past and move on. Feeling disappointed isn't a pleasant mood!
2006-07-25 06:21:21 · answer #1 · answered by swtz69drmz 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
We all have expectations and are disappointed when those expectations are not fulfilled.
Comparing is also a dangerous sport, as we are all different and what is one mans poison is another mans drink. Not everyone is honest and when they paint a picture it is of the best side first, and exageration well goes without saying, if their noses grew like pinocchio they would have to have surgery every week.
Being open and and honest about how you feel, and the boundaries that you have set for yourself is good.
Expecting others to respect them all the time or remember everything you have said or done is unrealistic and you are heading for disappointment, and a decision whether you want them to remain a part of your life can be made, or whether you can forgive them.
If they do respect them then you have something to be thankful for and thank them for.
Relationships require communication, Love, Respect, Sacrifice and a work ethic that you will work hard at the relationship for the rewards.
YOU REAP WHAT YOU SOW.
2006-07-25 16:23:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My God!! Your question hit home with me. My boyfriend used to disappoint me time and time again. I'd yell and act like a ***** for about two days, then I'd decide to get over it. That pattern worked for about a year. Only problem is that he never had to own up to his bad behavior because I'd let him off the hook after 2 days of yelling. The next time he did something hurtful, all that anger came back, only worse.
If he continues disappointing you over and over, evaluate the pattern you're in. You need to figure out why it keeps happening. Are you expectations too high? Does he lack the maturity to treat you and your relationship with respect? If it's him, you can't change it; even though it hurts, it's time to bail.
2006-07-25 14:46:00 · answer #3 · answered by 2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get used to it, this will be a trend in your life, being disappointed by men. You have to learn to expect it.
2006-07-25 13:21:50 · answer #4 · answered by Robin 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
explain to him why you are disappointed and check he realises that he has hurt you. He can't learn unless you explain when he goes wrong
2006-07-25 13:16:19 · answer #5 · answered by welsh_witch_sally 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him exactly how he has disapointed me, but I wont go shouting at him, I would talk calmly to get my voice heard and then let him explain!
2006-07-25 13:15:58 · answer #6 · answered by crazyicklepwincess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get used to it. You probably have unrealistic expectations of him. After all he is his own person and can't read your mind!
2006-07-25 13:24:09 · answer #7 · answered by llywarch_dindaethwy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depend on what he done. if he cheated slap him and tell him to walk and dont turn bk.
2006-07-25 13:16:33 · answer #8 · answered by alan h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump him, find a nicer boy
2006-07-25 13:14:56 · answer #9 · answered by nicky.x 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it all depends what he has done to dissapoint you
2006-07-25 13:16:36 · answer #10 · answered by millie01 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋