I feel so stuck in a rut right now. Friends don't want to go anywhere, haven't passed my driving test yet so can't go out, no guys I know, lonely, no job, no money, bored to tears- literally! I'm fed up with everything I start, hate my hobbies now and can't concentrate on any one thing for long, and all the while the heat is making me tired and sweaty...
2006-07-25 05:55:56 · 23 answers · asked by Rox 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Write a list of everything you ever wanted to do, no matter how silly, expensive, unlikely etc. Now go through it and look for something you could maybe do, it might not be the actual thing, but of for example you put you always wanted to visit Italy, you could start learning Italian, free online, so when things pick up you are cloaser to your goal. Other things may be perfectly reachable but you forgot you wanted to do them :)
2006-07-25 05:59:48 · answer #1 · answered by welsh_witch_sally 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This may sound stupid but just be glad of the things you DO have, you have friends, even if they don't want to go anywhere, you have your health and you have a lovely summer! It all depends on the way you look at things. I have been in that rut too and although my situation has not changed ( I have no job, I am all alone and the summer is very hot) I am now actively enjoying it! I joined a gym so now I go there every morning for my workout, even though it is awfully hot, I look forward to my shower afterwards! I talk to people on the street, I help the elderly, which makes me feel good about myself, I fool around on the Internet, playing games and answering questions, I go to the beach every day and swim in the ocean. I go to bed early, leaving me no time to get depressed and I rise at 6.00 am, ready for a new day. I also write down my experiences and/or feelings, it helps too. Above all; just looking on the bright side always helps a lot!
2006-07-25 13:07:20 · answer #2 · answered by Courage 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's just boredom, try volunteering until you get more independence. It'll look good on your CV too and give you confidence for when you do go job-hunting.
If you think it's deeper than that - depression? - see your doctor and maybe try Cognitive Behavioural Therapy to help you see things differently.
Ruts are awful when you are in them, but you can pull through and come out the other side.
2006-07-25 12:59:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will get out of this rut, let me say that because its a temporary thing. Read on if you sincerely want an advice:
a) As I said, its a temporary phase. Don't tell me that you think that you will be like that for rest of your life. Of course that is not going to happen so its just a matter of time. Do you want to waste your time feeling bad, crying, being helpless or you want to start planning to take life by horns when good times come?
b) You are not the only one. There are lot more difficulty and pain others are going through in this world somewhere in some corner. What you are going through is just a mental state and not a real problem. Deal with it like a grown up else life will make you cry at every step.
c) If you are thinking someone else will solve your problem, just forget about it. You are the only one who can solve your problems. More you wait for any miracle to happen or someone to take you out from your current state, more time you are wasting and losing your life. Just think, if it would have been your younger brother or sister, what advice would you have given to him/her?
d) Learn to find opportunity to feel happy and cheerful rather than excuses to feel sad and disappointed. Else you will always need someone to make you happy which is not a very good thing.
e) Given a choice, what would like to be, one who is bringing happiness to other's life and help them deal with unnecessay/undesired complexity of life or become a problem yourself for which everyone has to run around to solve your problem? I think you know the answer.
f) From my experience I can surely tell you one thing that this habit/trait is very painful and dangerous to not be able to be patient and concentrate on matters at hand. It has long term implications because as you grow, things in life demand more and more long term focus and elongated effort committment. If you want to be happy and be successful, fight this habit. Fight with yourself to win over this. Practice being determined to finish off what you take in your hand irrespective of how entertaining or amusing outcome might be. This is the quality that makes you reliable, dependeable and worthy of trust.
Before I close, just want to say that life is short. Every second you spend being unhappy or sad is a lost moment of you life. Once you have understood the importance of life, you will never waste time. Trust me on this.
2006-07-26 02:04:22 · answer #4 · answered by RKM 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Growing pains. Take some time to volunteer and help someone else (tutor kids, animal shelter, or go to nursing home and do something fun). There is always someone else out there worst off then you. Be thankful for what you have at the present, know it would stay that way forever, and move on.
2006-07-25 13:02:47 · answer #5 · answered by Starr 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just take one day after the other, there is time for fun, time to cry, time to laugh, time to sing, time for sorrow, time to weep, time to run, time to be scare, time to love, and time to share.
Keep the faith and continue loving life, today you might be stuck, but tomorrow you will fly like a free bird. Don't hate nothing that you do, but enjoy every minute of it.
Remember, that friends comes and friends go, they are really not faithful to you. But consider someone that you might think is going through the same situation as you, and probably both will find joy within.
Have a blessing day, and keep calm.
2006-07-25 13:05:02 · answer #6 · answered by Evy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everything you have described there sounds like you could have depression. Go and see your doctor and tell him how your feeling. If you have got depression, it wont just pass, trust me im still on my tablets and i was diagnosed with it 2 years ago. Send me a message if you want to ask me anything. Good luck
2006-07-25 13:18:17 · answer #7 · answered by Sara 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wake up. Think of all those poor kids who are having weapons of mass destruction pointed at their homes and familys at the moment, then go out and get a life.
2006-07-25 13:00:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try some volunteering, and if you can get there go to an evening class, preferably one which gives you homework. It will give you somewhere to go, a new focus, and you don't pay very much if you are on benefits. Oh, and it's social too!
2006-07-25 13:09:01 · answer #9 · answered by Thia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've had the same problem off and on this summer. I sat down and made a list of projects I've been putting off and started working my way through them. I got a lot done and it helped shake off the doldrums.
2006-07-25 15:15:24 · answer #10 · answered by nimbleminx 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋