We are still trying to undersatand each other.....He is a very rich smart and intelligent and I am not as smart as he is......we are still trying hard to undersatnd each other and tring to make this relationship work. The problem is that he can communicate very well and I can't. But I am trying to improve......He has many girl friends and he doesn't spend too much time with me. Lately he has never asked for sex....but I hold him when I go to sleep. Is it ok if I take the first step or should I wait untill get better as per his expectations??? Please help!!!!
2006-07-25 05:54:11 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What are you doing in that relationship! He has other girlfriends and you don't have sex. I hate to break it to you but that's not a marriage.
2006-07-25 05:57:07 · answer #1 · answered by shae 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Was this an arranged marriage? If so, then there should have been an understanding about what to expect in the arrangement regarding the bedroom. You should be able to ask your husband what the problem is when it comes to the two of you being intimate with each other. He should let you know where you stand so you can get a life without him if he's not there for you in the marriage. It sounds like your culture is a lot different than ours.
2006-07-25 06:24:45 · answer #2 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the relationship needs that much work, then why did you two get married? If he has other girlfriends, are you sure that he does not mean boyfriends and he married you to cover up ? You need to get out! Sex/making love is a big part of marriage. If the two of you have never had sex, then an annulment is what you need. That kind of situation is demeaning to you and is cruel. If he ever did have sex with you, who's to say that he won't give you a sexually transmitted disease? Get out now!
2006-07-25 06:03:05 · answer #3 · answered by bookgeisha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait a minute there, you are changing yourself to meet his expectations? If you didn't meat his expectations to begin with then why did he marry you? In your question you say you've never had sex but in the details you say that lately he has never asked for sex so which is it? My instinct tells me that he's sleeping with these girl friends of his. If you're wanting to make the marriage work, yes, make the first move and see what his reaction is. If he wants none of it, GET OUT
2006-07-25 06:00:20 · answer #4 · answered by purpleama456 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your man is either gender confused, gay, or has a woman on the side. If you have not had sex at least on your honeymoon then you really need to rethink your marriage. I am not saying it is all about sex but come on. Some one should have tried to seal the deal. Does he have the equipment to play in the game? Have you thought about seeing if the plumbing works? Two years into the marriage and you have not found out yet is really sad.
2006-07-25 06:04:30 · answer #5 · answered by flowlikewaterthroughapipe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ummm, let me see...very rich, smart, and intelligent...What else could a girl want???????? SEX, LOVE, COMMITMENT, CUDDLING, KISSES, I could go on but what's the use. Leave him unless you are there just for the money. You should never have to change to please someone else. Be yourself and see that you are special the way you are.
2006-07-25 06:22:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just don't understand. How could you be in a marriage for two years and not have sex. What do you do to satisfy yourself? This guy is a freak!!!
2006-07-25 05:59:20 · answer #7 · answered by yamaha bassman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
shouldn't have gotten married if you two don't understand each other.
he's having sex w/ other people, believe me!!!!
get a divorce, take 1/2 and find a man who you understand.
2006-07-25 06:23:35 · answer #8 · answered by mxbrown 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry but I don't understand a marriage without sex at all. I also don't understand him seeing other girls while married to you.
2006-07-25 06:37:07 · answer #9 · answered by lavenderroseford 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what? If I were you, as a wife, I'd make sure that sex happened soon if it's not too late (finding it somewhere else)
2006-07-25 05:57:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋