So how do you guys react when your gf/bf bring up the topic of his/her ex? Do you get angry or do you ignore it? The girl that I have now tends to bring up her ex all the time when we talk, it just gets on my nerves. Annoying and very disrespectful. What do people think about this issue? Thank you very much.
2006-07-25 05:50:00 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I sincerely don't care. I talk about my ex, because we were together 5 years, lived together, got engaged, etc... and so he was a major part of my life for a long time. He still is (we're friends, he's getting married, I'm incredibly happy for him).
As such, I understand that your past plays a large role in shaping who you are. You learn so much from relationships, and I would never deny my partner the right to expressing himself and who he has become because of his experiences.
As a matter of fact I like to listen to his stories about the past because it teaches me more about his expectations in a marriage and in life in general.
The bottom line is, I'm very secure, and I know my boyfriend (someday-to-be-husband) loves me. I only wish more people could share such a philosophy.
2006-07-25 06:00:47 · answer #1 · answered by Chryss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depending on your age, most people do have ex's and at some point in time they will bring them up in conversation. How long has your gf and her ex been split up? How long were they together, how close were they? These are all things that need to be taken into consideration in this situation. If it's becoming a bad habit and you feel that it's been long enough, all you can do is talk to her. Tell her that it bothers you when she brings up her ex all the time. That you understand they were close but that you feel by talking about her so much she is damaging your relationship.
2006-07-25 05:54:39 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 25 and divorced. My boyfriend is 31 and divorced. He speaks about his exwife at times (they have a child together). I don't do anything but listen. I did not come into the relationship pure and neither did he. We both have a past, and I can't get upset about that.
I would ignore it unless she is trying to get you to be more like her ex, or wanting to be with the ex.
2006-07-25 05:56:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I find that teasing him until he's ready to explode and then "getting" a headache is a wonderful way to modify even the most disrespectful of behavior.
It's funny. You don't have to explain it to them. Just do it once or twice and they're "cured"!
2006-07-25 05:53:56 · answer #4 · answered by Shady Lady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
once u ve an ex u cant help but bring it up in a conversation one point or the other,.though we try not to compare both of t hem it is just not possible it wil surely run across ur mind one time or the other,so wat u shd work on now is ow to handle the situation carefully
2006-07-25 05:56:44 · answer #5 · answered by mimi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I WILL answer this question.it is rude and if you have feelings for this person it also can be hurtful let her know that u dont like to hear about this other person and if he is on her mind so much maybe she should just go back to him.good luck
2006-07-25 05:55:07 · answer #6 · answered by hopefaith_lovecharity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it shows a lack of respect on her part and its up to you to tell her this and not expect her to read your mind. Define clearly to her how this is annoying and shows a lack of moving on in her life when she remains in the past with someone eles.
2006-07-25 06:00:27 · answer #7 · answered by the answers are there 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel that what's in the past should stay in the past.
2006-07-25 05:55:47 · answer #8 · answered by gemone523 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i hate it....my x wud always bring up other grls, his ex's, grls he did and i hated that so far my current bf does not and i love that.
2006-07-25 06:07:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋