Why do men still feel the need to 'pleasure' themselves when they are in a relationship or marriage where there are no worries in their sex lives? My friend is upset because she caught her fella pleasuring himself, when they had only had sex that morning. She's gutted.
2006-07-25 05:39:18 · 34 answers · asked by ♥ Nicola ♥ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well tell your friend she should not be upset. 70% of men masturbate and 65% of women do as well. Her husband is human and a sexual being, and she should believe because he is masturbating he loves her less. It is simply a release.
Tell your friend that she should be more secure about her sexual relationship. So what he masturbates, or watches adult films, or has fantasies- he is allowed. As long as he is coming home to you and doesn't have someone else what si the problem?
I would really suggest that she explores her own sexuality instead of focusing on his. And maybe ask herself why she feels so strongly against him masturbating? Does she believe that masturbation is wrong? A sin? Or that she is suppose to complete him? Because that is not what she is suppose to do.
She should not feel gutted there's nothign wrong with what he has done.
Here are some resources for her:
2006-07-25 05:51:16 · answer #1 · answered by kaiynasha 3 · 25⤊ 2⤋
It's not always an issue of pleasure, it could be a stress reliever. I don't know why so many women get so caught up on this, I've been married for 3 yrs together 8, we both still pleasure ourselves, and still have a very active sex life. We don't see each other as threats, it's no big deal. Tell your friend to get over it and grow up.
2006-07-25 05:47:59 · answer #2 · answered by Bassetlover 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its what makes the world go round and no amount of smart answers by females who dont understand it is going to make that change.
men have a natural build up of semen, its in their genes to dispose of it, hence procreation.
I suspect what some women cant handle is the fact that guys masturbate on their own when theres a perfectly good opportunity to have sex with their nearest and dearest. Although this may be true, guys find that:
a) its a lot more convenient than going through the courtship ritual
b) its more like a self gratification thing which doesnt really need female input
and
c) its really not that big of a deal
2006-07-25 05:52:58 · answer #3 · answered by mrogynist 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Masturbation is a normal part of life. Men do it, women do it, teens do it, children do it, toddlers do it, even infants do (in the fact they get pleasure from grabbing their privates).
Just because someone masturbates does not mean they don't feel like they don't have a fulfilling sex-life. Many people like to have several 'releases' a day... men in particular.
Different strokes for different folks... just know that it is NORMAL unless one is doing it ALL the time.
2006-07-25 05:45:44 · answer #4 · answered by Laurie D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that in this day and age, sex and related things are not as frowned upon as they once were. If it were a partner of mine, it wouldn't bother me at all. I think sex and most of what it entails is healthy and can be enjoyed with a partner and alone. This doesn't mean there is anything wrong in the relationship and being open will bring the sexual adventure in the relationship to an all time high
2006-07-25 06:55:33 · answer #5 · answered by Kerry B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she's gutted but wrong. She needs to understand a bunch of things, including:
- a good sex life does not necessarily eliminate masturbation. In fact masturbation can be an important part of psychosexual health, and so can be an important part of maintaining a good sex life.
- masturbation is for both, and she would not do herself any harm if she got into the habit.
- masturbation is not a "sexual partner". There is no threat. She absolutely needs to get into her head that this is not betrayal, in any sense of the word
- It's neither healthy for the relationship nor morally reasonable to expect someone to curtail their masturbation, except on the occasions when she's up for sex; if he's just jacked off, it's a bit crappy for her, and he should maybe think of her first. Also, if the dishes really need doing... Otherwise, it's his choice.
- your sexuality belongs only to yourself. It's such a unique thing for each individual that you can't expect people to behave according to a stereotype. Both of them should allow each other to be their unique selves. If they do that, good comes of it.
2006-07-25 05:42:37 · answer #6 · answered by wild_eep 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think guys just can't help themselves!! I've caught my guy masterbating after we've had sex multiple times in a day. Guys are just sick like that. I've asked mine if it was something that I did wrong and he laughed and said that he just "got the urge" and I wasn't there. (I had gone to the store to get something to eat and we had just done it) Tell her not to worry about it. I would only worry about it if he was doing it and not having sex with her.
2006-07-25 05:47:15 · answer #7 · answered by jesfow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest with you it is not a guy thing, it is a human thing. Some people are just more sexual then others and need more. Tell your friend, not to worry, and not to sweat him about it, its not like she caught him with another woman and if she gives him grief about it she might the next time.
2006-07-25 05:53:48 · answer #8 · answered by Joy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her next time she sees him masturbating, join in. He would love that and he would probably turn to her if he knew she would all the time. And if she doesn't, he still want that release so there is really no way of stopping masturbation, expect by having sex.
2006-07-25 05:43:46 · answer #9 · answered by Heather 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are lots of reasons. Maybe he wasn't satisfied in the morning. Maybe something got him going again and he needed the relief. There are many reasons...could be he just likes to do it.
Have her get some books on the subject and most importantly, talk to him about it.
2006-07-25 05:43:41 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋