Do you still hurt because of your parents' divorce, even if it happened a long time ago?
2006-07-25 05:33:38 · 14 answers · asked by Lioness 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
the amount of pain greatly depends on how the parents handle the visitation , etc. My parents fought over me for years , who was going to have custody , who was going to pay for this or that,etc. they got divorced when i was nine months old, had they been mature and reasonable about things , it would have been fine! i'd have never known it any other way.
2006-07-25 05:48:15 · answer #1 · answered by isabella 1 · 5⤊ 2⤋
I think I hurt for a long time after my parents divorce. It has been well over 20 years ago now, and I finally feel better about it. I know the reason for the hurting before was that they still hadn't found someone that was good for them. Last year they both got married to two wonderful people, and I am just so happy to see how they finally are. It has been a lot of years of struggling in the love department for them. I now feel more content that they aren't together and that they have both really moved on with their lives for the better without each other. I think for the most part that children wish their parents were still together for the sake of being a family.
2006-07-25 05:40:26 · answer #2 · answered by browneyes45506 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not the divorce that hurts, it's the fact of it being handled badly. Divorce can actually help a child in some situations. What hurts is not being visited by the absent parent, being inappropriately used as an emotional crutch and sounding board for the parent I lived with, and hearing ugly stories about my parents from each other.
2006-07-25 05:37:20 · answer #3 · answered by LisaT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My parents divorced when I was 5. I remember some things, but it doesn't hurt. But....my mother did use me to vent about my dad for a long time, and would put me on the phone when they were yelling. That was absolutely terrible. As long as parents act civil, then there should be no problems.
2006-07-25 07:02:19 · answer #4 · answered by Rachel R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It happened 40 years ago, and I do not still hurt from it. I think there were times of revisiting the hurt over the years, awkward times like holidays, graduations, wedding, births of my children, but it wasn't like it was a constant hurt.
2006-07-25 05:36:57 · answer #5 · answered by Rvn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heck no...It was the best gift they could of given me. they did themselves a favor by divorcing. Im just glad I dont have to hear them fight anymore. It was long overdue.
2006-07-25 05:37:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no my dad used to beat the crap out of my mom The divorce was one of the happiest days of my life.
2006-07-25 05:35:51 · answer #7 · answered by Lilly K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yep, mine happened over 30 years ago and I still have some resentment toward my dad. But I gotta let it go.
2006-07-25 05:46:25 · answer #8 · answered by DesignR 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The pain will go on for the rest of the child's life.
I urge to get help from your love ones.
2006-07-25 05:37:13 · answer #9 · answered by 1978nevaeh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was never hurt to begin with - it was nice when all the fighting stopped!
2006-07-25 05:49:09 · answer #10 · answered by thersa33 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋