2006-07-25 05:24:55 · 41 answers · asked by one_hot_guy5569 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You don't, you trust her.
2006-07-25 05:26:27 · answer #1 · answered by tushpush1966 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When my husband was deployed, I noticed a few things about the other wives around me. Those that didn't cheat, remained in constant contact with their spouse and his family during the deployment. They sent packages, letters and emails regularly. They practically sat on the phone waiting for it to ring.
The ones that cheated... they spent all the money, didn't pay the bills, went out all the time, lost contact with their spouses family, changed her appearance, weren't home when those important calls came in...and when they did recieve a call.. they were very distant with their spouse, as if they were friends not lovers.
Being deployed and worried is very tough. The most important thing to do is keep yourself aware of your surroundings. Try to put your troubles out of your mind while you are on patrol.
I hope what I've said helps you some..my dad always said you can tell when a woman makes a major change in her life because she changes her hair style. I'm not sure that's true for everyone, but the women in my family sure seem to follow that sentiment.
Thank You for Your Service To Our Country!
2006-07-25 06:11:02 · answer #2 · answered by Mary J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry you are questioning that, especially being in iraq. As a marine wife, I have seen a lot of it. If u really dont trust her, hire someone to investigate, but if I were you, I would just ask her, and see what she says. If she says she hasn't, then just believe her and put it out of mind so you can do your job there and stay safe. Worry about it when you come. God Bless.
2006-07-25 07:05:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When my husband was in the AF it happened all the time other men's wives "visiting" other men while they were away. My advice is make sure she knows you love her and trust her, have conversations with other men your working with and see if there wives say anything, I don't know of many DW's that don't know "whats going on" at someone Else's house! AND the other men will also tell you if they think she would... my husband had heard "rumors" once and the guys he works with told him, no way, I know your wife and I don't believe that for a minute. Bottom line, if you think you can't trust her there is probably a reason for it, step up and let her know "your the man the only man" she is probably lonely and scared.
2006-07-25 05:32:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you don't trust her that's not a very good marriage in the first place.
But if you gotta know then I suggest keeping in touch with her as often as you can over there. Write sweet things to her whenever you have a chance to mail something, Make phone calls whenever you can but don't act jealous or investigative just see how she talks to you on the phone... Does she miss you, etc.
Also before you go make sure you give her some lovin she'll never forget and never wanna live with out so she will want you when your gone. AND PLEASE DONT get into a fight before you leave, be nothing but sweet so she will remember why she got with you and why shes still with you.
2006-07-25 05:30:41 · answer #5 · answered by aljea 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well go to the search for questions and type in cheating while my husbands in Iraq and see if you reconize any of the women. Several women on here have admited to cheating while their husbands are over there.
Im sorry if she is.
Call her at odd hours.
Ask a friend to keep an eye out for you. (female friend) cause she might get to close to some of your male friends.
Any woman that cheats on her husband or ask for a divorce while he over there needs a good reality check or a$$ whipping.
Some women are saying its only sex but still i think its wrong. If she wants sex she should get a toy.
2006-07-25 05:29:42 · answer #6 · answered by bree30 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, your loving your wife and getting married should have been done in good faith, meaning that there should be trust too. If she's never given you a reason to doubt her, then you really don't need to be in a state of doing that now with your health & life being in danger. Say your prayers for all to go well both there and at home, and things will be OK.
2006-07-25 05:36:59 · answer #7 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you can do is ask. See what kind of reply you get, and upon returning home, you'll be able to see it in her eyes whether or not she's been faithful.
I want to thank you personally for being brave and serving in the military. It takes a lot to do what you've been doing...just want you to know you're much appreciated. God Bless!
As far as your wife, live for today is the best advise I can give you. It's bad enough you have to be away from your family for "X" amount of time, you shouldn't have to worry about what's going on at home. If she's cheating on you, she doesn't deserve to have a man like you.
2006-07-25 05:29:50 · answer #8 · answered by Shining Ray of Light 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you joined the military or when you got married, did you discuss long absences and how hard they would be on you both? This is really important. Can you tell? Probably not unless she leaves you for someone else. If you are asking this question, you don't trust her already. Better talk about it before you go! Maybe this marriage is already over.
2006-07-25 05:28:29 · answer #9 · answered by grapeshenry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well theres nothing you can see for sure that she's cheating while you are so far away, I mena if you were in town there are sure fire ways of knowing. But right now the most important thing is to be confident and have trust in one another. But if you do find out with time that she has cheated forget about her, shes not worth it!!!
2006-07-25 05:27:27 · answer #10 · answered by lasugarfree 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me bro! You really don't want to know... Just take my word for it, the majority of women are whores and will always think to themselves "ughhhh, this really sucks for me!!! My stupid husband is away and I'm not getting any d*ck! Poor me!! My life sucks!!"
Just take it on faith and if she's still around when you get back, make believe the time you where in the gulf never happened.
2006-07-25 05:29:17 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋