What would you think if you overheard your husband telling his mother what you say to him in bed?

Question

My husband and his mother are close. I think maybe too close. I have accidentally overheard him telling his mother our most intimate secrets. How do I confront him and how do I tell his mother to stop interfereing?

Answer 1

Your husband and mother in law have inappropriate boundaries.
If your husband confides in her this way, then there is a problem. He obviously does not find this behaviour awkward. I would say their relationship is maladjusted.
Speak to him. Tell him how this makes you feel. What you think of his actions. If he seems unconcerned, then you have a problem.
Think about this. What is the purpose of him telling his mother? Ask him. I believe your intuition is correct in what you are thinking. Please confide this in those you trust. Good Luck!

Answer 2

First of all,you tell your husband and not his mother. Tell him you accidentally overheard him talking to his mother about things you don't think he should be telling her. Let him know that when you got married,it became him and you,not him you and his mother. You don't have to be confrontational because that only brings about a negative response. Just talk to him. Some men just need to be made to understand that they are not little boys anymore. They don't need to tell mommy everything like when they were young. Whatever you do,I would not give his mother the satisfaction of knowing that she is at the heart of your problem because she might just like the fact that she is , because she could have told her son that she did not need to hear this,but evidentally she didn't.

Answer 3

Some things should be kept private and this is one of them. Rip his *** up one side and down the other and chew him out like no tomorrow. If he was a smart man, he would know better than to open his mouth and tell his mother anything. If not, then his mother can have him back.

Answer 4

Everyone else has some good points, but I want to add that you need to be careful how you handle this.

don't approach him with the attitude of "OMG, I can't beleive you are telling my secrets to your mother" but more along the lines of

"I FEEL betrayed when you talk about our intimate conversations with your mother. That makes me feel like I don't want to share with you anymore, and that's not a good thing for our marriage."

Answer 5

Gather up your courage and tell him point blank. Whatever a husband and wife discuss in private is theirs to know and no others. Ask him the obvious: should you be discussing the same issues with anyone you so choose?

Impose on him the restraint to tell his mother things not for her to know. It is him the one to talk to her, not you. You tell him, make him understand he is now a married man, and you are his first responsibility.

Answer 6

You need to help him connect the dots between betraying your trust and your future behavior, since he can't seem to do it for himself.

For example:

Sweetheart, I overheard what you said to your mom. You need to decide who you're going to sleep with, because I'm not going to if there's the possibility that your mom will be invited into our bed after the fact.

It doesn't matter what the bad habit is--people change their behavior when they connect with the consequences of their actions. He needs to be made aware of the consequences.

Answer 7

you should confront your Husband and let him know how you feel.
its kinda disgustin to talk to your mother abt such intimate things.
dont confront the mother , she is only listening, unless she is asking for the details, that, you can find out after you talk to your Husband

Answer 8

Tell him to stop telling his mother all that you say in bed. Then sleep in another bed until he agrees or for awhile. Tell him it hurts that he does that.

Answer 9

Gross. You don't tell your mother whats your partner says in bed. He is a weirdo

Answer 10

That is too creepy! You need to just sit him down and tell him how you honestly feel about the whole situation!