I'm starting college in the fall and I don't know if it would be better to tell my roomate right from the start or let him get to know other things about me. I know either way it will be an awkward situation, but I just don't know when to bring it up and how. I've already met some people and I told them that I'm gay but I don't find out my roomate assignment for another few weeks. What should I do when I first talk to him?
2006-07-25 04:49:06 · 21 answers · asked by Brian 1 in Education & Reference ➔ Higher Education (University +)
Why does it matter if your gay..? I typically don't tell people that I'm straight....unless I'm interested in having sex with them.... Let it ride.... Your roommate will figure it out.... Let them get to know you for who you are and not how you like your sex....
2006-07-25 04:53:41 · answer #1 · answered by LieDetector 3 · 5⤊ 1⤋
in case you have been friends for a on a similar time as and he or she has even 0.5 a concepts she's probable figured it out via now. How do you examine her acceptability point? If she's quite homophobic (if so, i don't be attentive to why you would be friends with somebody like that interior the 1st place) then i does no longer tell her. in case you think of she'd be cool with it then tell her. i've got had a number of friends "pop out" to me over the years. I continually felt flattered that they respected and depended on me sufficient to tell me. Casually strengthen some thing approximately gay human beings. If she's a d*ck and makes a homophobic assertion then do no longer tell her. yet once you establish to conceal it and you are going to stay together with her then it is going to likely be extraordinarily confusing as much as now, have a dating or have the guy spend the evening devoid of her figuring it out (till she's quite quite dumb).
2016-11-02 23:26:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be who you are. I'm not gay, but I certainly don't run around telling people to be warned; I'm straight. Be true to you and if he asks, then simply tell him that you are gay and you hope it does not pose a problem for him. Who knows, he may be gay as well and struggling with the same fears.
Rest easy and enjoy college.
All the best.
2006-07-25 04:54:27 · answer #3 · answered by ·!¦[·ÐarrÁ·]¦!· 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why does everyone feel the need to share such things? The first thing I wouldn't think of sharing would be that I was a heterosexual... why should you be different? Focus on getting to know each other... find out common interests you have. Enjoy your freshman year, and keep private things private.
2006-07-25 04:56:15 · answer #4 · answered by Mike S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what you feel is best. If you feel comfortable with them from the start, then maybe you can just tell them, "Hey, I'm gay." If you feel like they may be a little uncomfortable with it, after you get to talking with them, then let them figure it out or have them ask you when they're comfortable.
2006-07-25 04:54:29 · answer #5 · answered by PixelWire 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should make a big deal out of it. Will your roommate say "hey, I'm heterosexual"? If he asks, tell him. If you feel the need to tell him, just say, I wantted you to know I'm gay upfront, so that you're not suprised by it if I have a date around.
2006-07-25 04:53:37 · answer #6 · answered by Jennifer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him just before you get into bed, that way you will get a good nights sleep, because he will be awake all night keeping an Eye on you. To be certain give him a kiss and tell him to sleep tight.
2006-07-25 04:55:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, good luck. Lots a guys i went to college with had gay roommates and they were cool with it. try to get to know your roommate to get a sense of how he will act. if he is a homo-phobe, it will probably be difficult, but you should still tell him. if he is a good guy, he will come around. as long as he knows you aren't scoping him out and looking at him naked, that should probably ease his fears. if he still acts like a jerk, move out and get a new roommate. it sucks, but thats what i had to do when i didn't get along with my roomies.
2006-07-25 04:54:19 · answer #8 · answered by Queen of the Dachshunds 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him up front and let him know that it won't affect the way you live your life in the dorms - it's just another piece of you like your hair color. If he has a problem with it, it's his problem and he can move.
2006-07-25 04:53:48 · answer #9 · answered by Lex 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you know who you are that's all that matters. Don't change who you are on someone elses behalf. Don't be timid about it, just be yourself and as soon as the "chic" subject is brought up just let him know. Everyone carries their own burdens and society has made you feel as this is one. Don't allow it to be. Your life, you decisions, that's the beauty part!
2006-07-25 04:58:36 · answer #10 · answered by dvsdawn74 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
scope him. find out his personality and try and figure out if he has a stance on gay rights and gay issues be subtle thou, you could always say, well my friend's gay, so i'm for gay rights or w/e. if he seems against it, wait, if he's for them it'd be better to tell him early.
See if these rooms are "assigned" then you have no choice, if you have a choice, tell him right away.
2006-07-25 04:54:50 · answer #11 · answered by Michael J with wings 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋