I miss my wife,she just left me for her ex,should i beg her to come back?

Question

I love her to death,she was my everything.

Answer 1

Move on you can do better than her

Answer 2

You don't need counseling.....what you need now is a better perspective. Since your wife left you for another man, let her go. If she wasn't happy with you she would not have left and any amount of begging or pleading will not change that. I know the pain is great right now.....give yourself some time to recover. Think about what you want out of a relationship and seek that.
I don't know why your wife left but you may want to confront the reasons if they revolve around you. Look back at any mistakes or sticking points you two had and try to avoid the same situation in the future. Look for someone who will be faithful to you and treat her as if she were queen of the world. I'm not talking about showering her with material things.....those are temporary at best. I'm talking about a commitment that would last a lifetime by way of your personal interaction with her. If your wife's eye wandered then you never really had her to begin with.
Good luck and hope this helps.

Answer 3

If you love her and she is your everything, why would you not try to get her back? Then it all depends on what she did before she left. Did she love you like you think she should have? Did she respect you for what you were trying to do for her? Were you happy with her when she was there? Was she happy with you? But dont beg her to come back. Present the situation to her and let her know how you feel and then leave the decision up to her. Give her the space that she needs and then she will decide on what she wants to do. Give her a time frame but dont let her know it. When she comes back if it is within your time frame then your good to go and live life happily ever after. If not then move on with your life and find a new love that will be your everything and then some.

Answer 4

No, why would you want someone back who has hurt you? Time heals all wounds. In your next relationship, look for genuine qualities in a person. Take your time getting to know them as a friend. Get to know their habits, character, personality. Do not rush into a relationship or go into rebound, it may back fire on you.

Give yourself some time to be alone and figure out what you want in your future relationship. If she was in love with you, she would not have left you! So save all of that love for the right person who will come into your life, and pour all of that positive energy into her.

Do not bring up the past in your new relationship. Do not talk or compare your future relationship with your ex. That's a big negative. Wait until you are entirely over your ex-wife, don't rush into another relationship or try to find someone that fits the description of your ex. You will be only hurting yourself.

Don't worry, you will find the right person to click with, it is just a matter of time. Don't keep dreading on why she left, replace those thoughts with happy thoughts, it's very hard, but eventually it will work and you will be over that great pain.

I wish you well, keep your head up, and don't sweat it anymore!

Answer 5

Well...it's pretty obvious that you wern't her everything. I know that this hurts you but you have to move on with your life...not whinning about what happend to you to strangers on the internet!

It's also painfully obvious that you have chosen poorly when it comes to a mate. DOn't worry most men have done that (myself included). So you put all of your effort into one woman and she trashed you for another guy. You're better off trust me. Number one she has demonstrated that she has no sense of commitment. This is good to find out now before you have kids with her. Two she can't make up her mind...she went off with her ex- she doesn't realize that he was her ex- for a reason. In time she might very well come back to your door step whinning like a cat you fed once telling you she made this BIG mistake. NOw if you take her back then you have mental issues. three...she's a slutt. If you think that she brokle it off with you to try and take a shot with her ex- then you're double stupid. SHe has been banging him long before she left you.

SO grow some balls and move on down the road. She's not your eveything..no one is...the sooner you get over that misconception the sooner you stop being taken for a sucker with women.

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Good luck

Answer 6

Wow! OK this is a tricky question to answer. I would say if you love her yes but do not beg! Not for pride reasons but for self worth reasons. I'm not going to patronize you and say that i know how you feel because i don't. All i can tell you is that you know your heart better than any one else.
One other factor would be if you did some thing to make her leave? If so then you will have a lot of work to do to gain her trust back. I have a lot of questions i would like to ask to try and help. If you care to talk about it! contact me.
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Answer 7

First of all that might had been your first mistake. Never make someone your everything. Sometimes people can't live under that pressure. The second thing is trying to talk to your wife and third get some marital counseling. Still continue to show your love but don't be overbearing with it. Good luck.

Answer 8

This is so sad...I believe you should not beg for her to come back. I can only imagine your pain at her decision to go back to her ex, and I also know that in time, you will heal. Allow yourself to grieve over the loss of your relationship and treat yourself well. Find the supportive people in your life now, whether they are your friends or family. These people can bring you through the tough times. You might also want to search online groups for support. Yahoo groups and MSN groups are some great places to start. Best of luck to you. :)

Answer 9

The only thing worthy of begging for is forgiveness, in any situation. If she left, it was for a reason, whether it be your own shortcomings, or her own confusion concerning what she wants. Keep in mind, that indecisiveness is a personality trait. If you beg her back to you, you will most likely see a repeat scenerio in the near future. Of course, it's easy to give advice, but only you and your wife know the circumstances of her decision.

Answer 10

Hell No!!! get as much dirt on her as possible go to court file for divorce and take what ever you can from her. I bet if you left her she would do the same to you. As mush as you love her don’t go back to her. Remember she left you and that hurts. That pain will keep you guys from ever being the same. So you have to move one. Go out with you old buddies, get a couple of drinks, have some fun. You will eventually find someone else.

Answer 11

In trying to think of myself in that same situation, I don't think begging would be in my best interest. So I am going to tell you no don't do it. You have lost an important person and part of your life. A break up carries the same type of grief that death of a loved one carries. Try following the steps to grieving, give yourself time.