I have been with my man for 4 years off and on we love each other more than life it self and any one that knows us can see that. but we spend more time fighting then actuallu apreciating each other. i hate to fight and we do it constanly. I guess i just feel like hes not always conciderate of me and thinks only of him self instead of ''us'' I dont know how to get thru to him with out him thinking that he does every thing wrong.. And please im not going to leave him so please give me some thing that will help me...thanks(Excuse my spelling i know its bad)
2006-07-25 04:28:39 · 5 answers · asked by JMO 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Try talking to him; that may help!
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2006-07-25 04:33:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
After 4 years people think it gets easier to communicate but it doesn’t. 4 years of getting to know each other also means 4 years of telling him what he can and cannot do. Sometimes guys get a bit tiered of the same old arguments. The best thing to-do is giving him a little trust. Don’t overwhelm him by calling too much or getting mad a lot about the little things. Learn to accept him. Give him a little space. When guys feel like there social life is taken away they may tend to get irritated and frustrated with the relationship. Sometime they blame there relationship for having missed out on lots of things in there life, but they wont admit it to you. The Best thing you can do is be more understanding and less frustrated with him. This may make him feel awkward at first because he used to always fighting with you and when a situation comes up where your not fighting he may not know how to react at first. Don’t get mad at him if he fails to react the way you expect him to. It takes time. Talk to him instead of jumping to conclusions. If he gives you attitude you can tell him you don’t appreciate that but try not to get into an augment.
2006-07-25 04:45:44 · answer #2 · answered by SOMEGUY 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should find as many things as you can to agree with him on. Show interest in the things that he likes. Be loving and listen to him. Maybe then he will see how much you love him. he will want to spend more time with you and be more willing to listen to you. they say that women nag, but I have found that men nag more. Usually they lash out at us when we have done nothing wrong. we defend ourselves and end up fighting all night. I have learned to just listen and even sometimes agree with what he is complaining about. usually he is just blowing off steam. another thing women and men are very different. we use our whole brain while men use only there left side. we are emotional while they are logical. When we engage in conversation, men want the facts while we want to give all the details. when you begin to understand each others differences and what each other wants then you will be able to communicate better. women want love and men want respect. that is the way that God made us.
2006-07-25 05:50:31 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
write him a letter then ask him in the letter to write you back. Letter writing is great because you can say how you feel with out a fight. When he reads the letter he will hear your voice. Also he can read the letter when he is ready to face what you are giving him. If he does not write you back or respond verbally then he just does not care enough about you then you should consider finding someone who really makes you happy. Unless your hapy to live the rest of your life with no peace and harmony. Thats what love is.
2006-07-25 04:42:50 · answer #4 · answered by carmen c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have him sit down and talk about it and tell him do you love me and do you care? I need to know if you want make this work or not and i am so tired of fighting every day and I do love you more anything in the world and i don't know if you feel that way? I know that we been off and on last 4 years and why I didn't leave you this time because I love you more than life itself. I need to know if we can work it out. it up to you to tell me and I don't know if you love me anymore? Why? because we fight everday. that why I think you don't love me anymore. It the job? money, sex, or something seeing someone? anything??? what made us fight everyday and we need to find why happen? where we can learn to stop now and make it work on our love between us.
YOu know that my wife and I fight before and now we know that fighting will not solve the plm but to sit down and listen to each other not just one, but both. Now my wife and i been married for 9 years and commucation very imporant. If one person didn't want to learn how to use commucation in the field I don't see how you will last forever?
I know you not going to leave him so that mean you going to love him no matter what he does to you or yell at you or mad at you or something.
2006-07-25 04:40:59 · answer #5 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try writing him a love letter. "Sweetie; I really want to be with you forever and a day. You make me feel as if I am yours forever when we are together. I feel like a flower growing in your well tilled garden. You have plowed my fertile ground. You have planted your seeds of love within me. You have watered me when I have been parched. You have pruned my bushiness when it has grown out of bounds. You make me feel loved and wanted, cared for and delighted over. Let's be together more,"
Something along those lines. Describe how he makes you feel.
2006-07-25 04:37:54 · answer #6 · answered by rb_cubed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him.. thats the only way
or dump him, but you said you dont wanna do that
You shouldnt have to compromise when it comes to love, if you really love each other then hell understand and talk it through with you
2006-07-25 04:34:28 · answer #7 · answered by sexydp 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Promise yourself not to fight him no matter what happens. Always look at his bright side and bring it to his attention. With time, he will reciprocate the same behavior with you. Remember it takes two to fight, if you don't fight he will stop fighting
2006-07-25 05:00:58 · answer #8 · answered by hotdesersand 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-07-25 04:38:19 · answer #9 · answered by sm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋