he tells me things about it but i am not sure when to command him, how to revoke a command from him, and i want to learn how to do it right so i can surprise him. hed love it.
2006-07-25 04:20:02 · 6 answers · asked by kilee c 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The usual paradigm is that a Dominant will train a submissive. However, it is not unusual for a submissive to train a Dominant. Right now, he would be you best resource as ultimately this will be primarily about your relationship in general. There's nothing wrong with learning from him. Indeed, I would suspect that he will have plenty of ideas to share with you.
Ultimately, you will be to assume the reigns of the relationship, where you would be making the independent decisions from your role. However, once you are familiar with the basic paradigm, that should come rather easily for you. For example, he can give you an idea for something, but you do not act upon it for some time, like maybe weeks or months even. Then one day, when he seems to have forgotten about it, you spring it upon him. :-)
I will agree that another resource is communication with other Dominants, either on-line in chat rooms or forums, or in person through the D/s community. (Most sizable cities will have such a group that can be found with a little web searching.) Remember that not everything that they bring up will be applicable to your relationship, but nevertheless they so make for some level of support as you progress.
Remember, however, that you have to be a willing and consenting partner in this dance. He will offer of himself, but you are under no obligation to accept, and you can limit how much that you accept. Just remember the ground rule that everything has to be approved, at least implicitly, by both of you. Most important of all, have fun with this role if you take it on, otherwise you'll simply be going through the motions and that rarely lasts for very long.
I wish you and your finace success in your relationship.
2006-07-27 17:05:42 · answer #1 · answered by Ѕємι~Мαđ ŠçїєŋŧιѕТ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is not nearly enough information to give a solid answer to. First, how old are both you and your fiance?
In which way was he 'trained' by a Domme? Was it a long-term service-oriented training? Or did he visit her on short visits, mostly for bondage and sensation play? Does he enjoy giving up sexual control of himself to a strong woman? Or does he just enjoy the pain of being flogged?
If he wants you to be his Mistress, you must find out more of his desires if you wish to fulfill this need of his. You also must look within yourself to make certain that you have what it takes to be on top in the relationship when necessary. Domination can run the gamut from occasionally wearing something to appeal to his fetishes (and put him into bottom space while doing so) to many different levels of pain play and 24/7 total power exchanges.
Best of luck to you in your search.
2006-07-25 11:41:34 · answer #2 · answered by Domina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most doms train under a dom as thier submissive... i suggest you check out the adult chat in yahoo under fetish there is a catagory for dom/sub it's a lifestyle that isn't gonna be so easy to adapt to. good luck
2006-07-25 11:25:40 · answer #3 · answered by Amy M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call his dominatrix and take private lessons.
2006-07-25 11:24:42 · answer #4 · answered by Building Beauty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start visiting D/s websites............lots of good information for Doms........................good luck to you!!!!
try castlerealm.com...........there are plenty of other sites too!
2006-07-25 11:23:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you his slave?? I do not think so wake up girl.
2006-07-25 11:26:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋