I love her too,but i cant deal with it.So why did she leave if she still loved me?
2006-07-25 03:39:02 · 14 answers · asked by kiki 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Because she wants to keep you on a string ...so you don't go and find someone else ...She can't have you both so she needs to figure out who she
wants and leave the other one alone ...If I were you I would move on and tell her to quit calling...she is playing games and you don't need that
2006-07-25 03:57:55 · answer #1 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she is a drama queen. Take some time to think about her past behavior with you, now that you have some alone time. Also, how did she treat you around other men. Has she ever put herself in the middle before? Especially with an ex. She may just want to appear unattainable so you will continue pursuing her. The truth probably is, she really isn't all that great and just keeps you dragging along because she has nothing else to offer and you're a sucker. Or p*ssy whipped. Either way, unless you have children together, or even if you do, maybe she isn't the right girl and she's doing you a favor by leaving. And if she has children with the ex (first or only), I would say f*ck it. Let her go.
Just a thought.
2006-07-25 10:48:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She feels guilty and that's all. Is hard to take a step like this and leave a whole life behind. It's normal for her to say that she loves you, but those words might be targeted to confort you because she feels guilty of what she has done to you.
Also, she wants to have a "back up" plan and have you there just in case her relationship with is ex doesn't work out.
Don't read this "I still love you" as a sign of wanting to get back together. Is not going to happen so don't hold your breath,. My ex-h told me that he loved me right before the divorce, but I knew he said it because he felt guilty and that was all.
Get a lawyer and move on with your life. Good luck
2006-07-25 10:59:37 · answer #3 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not only left you, left you for her ex. Sounds like she is extremely confused. She probably has feelings for both of you. She made a decision when she walked out of you. It may have been an awful mistake on her part, but it's up to you whether you want her back or not. If you decide you want to give it another chance you should ask her to move out from his place and go somewhere else first. maybe to her mother's house, to her own place or something like that. That way you can start working on your relatinoship, and talking things out. Not just coming back to where you left off. If she truly loves you, she will do it.
I had a similar experience with my husband. Left me for another woman. He wanted to come back, but I gave him a hard time. He moved in with him mom before he could come back. Gave us some time to talk and work some things out, because things were definitely not going to be the same when he finally came back.
The ball's on your court now. Good luck.
2006-07-25 10:45:35 · answer #4 · answered by BluePassion 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life's too short-you can find someone to love who's solid mentally and will love you right and treat you right as well. The mixed up wife does not love you or she wouldn't have put you through this ridiculous mess. Kick the wife to the curb and find the loving and faithful girl you deserve.
2006-07-25 11:29:37 · answer #5 · answered by Seagoat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you have to do is say well if you want to be with your ex then fine. but then when she comes back dont take her. got it. that is the worst mastake any one could make. and its not a rare mistake either. Of course you will always love her no matter what. She was your wife. but that doesnt mean that you all should be together. she mad her choice and it wasnt a nice one. and yes love hers alot, trust me.
2006-07-25 11:14:26 · answer #6 · answered by thinkpink410 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what brother, if your wife ran back to her ex., you better believe she still has feelings for him. She is probably confused about who she wants to be with. Sit down with her and let her know that this situation is bothering you and if she dosen't stop, you will be leaving her and stand your ground if not she will be doing this alot.
2006-07-25 11:35:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because she doesn't stilll love you, she is just holding on to you in case things with her ex don't work out. if youa re still in the background then she has someone to fall back on. Sorry. You should go out and find someone who will treat you better.
2006-07-25 10:44:37 · answer #8 · answered by heatherdrake2005 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what'd you do to where she feels she cannot be with you even if she loves you. That happened to me once, but My boyfriend, who I loved to death, did something I could not live with. I went back to my ex and am now very happy, but I still love the first guy, and have never forgotten him. I love them both. I know that sounds wierd but I do.I wanted a life with the first guy, but he runied it.
2006-07-25 15:54:14 · answer #9 · answered by rebecca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can't be certain as to why she returned to her ex. Sounds as if she is a bit confused. How long have you two been married? Nevertheless, you must insist that she make a decision...either you or her ex!
2006-07-25 11:05:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋