my husband and i of 7 yrs don't talk anymore only about work what to do?

Question

i have often started talking about things and turn around and he's left the room

Answer 1

I recommend picking up a new hobby together, even something cheesy like dance lessons once a week will help you find a new connection. Pick up a class together, or start a new project together. It will bring you tow closer together and have a new subject to discuss.

Answer 2

I agree you should find a common ground. Find something that you both like to do together, a hobby, a sport, something other than television! Also you need to find something besides work that is separate and your own. Often when we are with someone for so long we start to lose our identities. Go out with friends, find a hobby, join a club or sports team, read a book or read the paper etc... Encourage him to do the same then establish a regular "date night". That way when you go on your "date" you can make work talk off limits and actually have things to talk about besides work.

This happened to us it was either work or our son that became the topic of conversation. The worst thing about the work talk is that we actually work together so we need to talk about it but these are some of the things that we do to keep it interesting.

Answer 3

It sounds like the two of you should plan on a dinner date out at a restaurant. While your there, enjoy yourselves and make an agreement between the two of you to not talk about work the whole time. Start by talking about what the two of you did when you first met, your wedding day or planning it, funny things that happened during that time. If you start off by remembering the good times of the past it can lead to you talking about other things that are more recent.
Good luck

Answer 4

Start changing the subject. You been married for 7 years therefore you must know his likes and dislikes and his yours. You can continue sharing stories about work, but not all the time. Talk about things you've done in the past together. Like maybe a vacation you've taken in the past. Talk about making plans for another. There are so many things you can be talking about in this world, why are you guys so stuck in rut. Use your imagination. And tell him how you feel. There goes another conversation.

Answer 5

Remember when you first got married? What did you talk about then? Sometimes we get lost in the daily grind of work and life. You have to make time for other things. Don't wait for him,you can start things. Take him on a date and take it from there.

Answer 6

If your husband is truthful and believes in monogamy, then its because the fervour and affinity you both had has weaned off. Both are responsible for this inertia, If he has extra marital relationships, he is avoiding confrontation with you.
Check whether he has any serious problems with his work, if so, console him like a baby on your lap. Give him confidence to move ahead.If everything fails, seek the help of a marriage counsellor!!!

Answer 7

Maybe you need to find something you are both interested in. Do more things together, even if its as simple as renting movies and having a movie night. The more time you spend together the more you will have in common, leading to conversations involving more than work. Good luck.

Answer 8

That's what happened to mine of 12 years and then the sex stopped so I'm not sure but if you want to stay married you better find a Way to talk this out. Sorry

Answer 9

Spice it up. Take it upon yourself to talk about something more interesting. Read the paper, read a book, discuss what you have read. Talk to him about whatever pops into your head. You have to make the changes that you want.

Answer 10

yea it happen, but you can find something you both like and start from there, a little goes a long way.