how is it that parents scream at their kids?

Question

instead of calmly listening to them and then talking to them explaining what is right and wrong in a helpful manner letting them express their opinions

Answer 1

Because their parents were screamers, or they have no form of discipline. I agree. If you always talk to your children in a calm voice, they will repond to a calm voice. If you scream at your children all the time, they will only repond to screaming.

Answer 2

Well I think that one needs to establish that screaming is not an act of parenting, it is an act of frustration.

Listening to their children doesn't do much good when they cannot make a logical statement or even have the means to voice what their intentions are for wanting or needing.

I think explaining right from wrong is always what a parent needs to do but you can't expect the child to do the right thing all the time. Every child has always done the wrong thing at some point, does that always warrant the parent screaming, no, but every parent agrees they can't always express the right and wrong points to children as effectively that one would like.

Answer 3

I have been guilty of yelling instead of being calm...........I'm a lot better and patient now. My opinion is because some parents are stressed, worried about numerous things in life like (bills, trying to make there family happy, health problems and even their jobs may be stressful) so the most important thing for parents to try to do is remember that our kids are innocent (some of them) we should cherish them more and teach them how to handle things in life calmly instead of violently. Kids are entitled to there opinion so they should ALWAYS be allowed to express themselves, if we don't allow this they will find other ways to express themselves that will more than likely not be to the best of their interest or the families.

Answer 4

Most good parents do that much of the time but some are so stressed from work etc. that they lose patience. Some kids are not easy and don't listen. Any kid will push a parent as far as they can and that drives adults crazy. Raising a child is the toughest job you'll ever love.

Answer 5

Sometimes it isn't intentional. The yelling is the result of frustration. If parents had nothing to do in their lives but to deal with the daily issues of kids, we'd all be calm all the time. But life gets stressful for parents too. Parenting, working, cleaning house, making meals, etc, it can get away from the best of us.

Answer 6

I think it's because the kid didn't listen the first 10 times so eventually the parent has to scream.

Answer 7

how is it that there are parents that don't enforce their own rules and regulations in the end just letting the kid do whatever the h3!! the kid wants which is not good either. why is it that some parents are too soft making the kid a spoiled brat that causes trouble. how is it that some parents are too strict. etc. etc.
kids don't come with hand book there hippie. Pray and do what you know you can do. all i can tell ya

Answer 8

Ask me again when your four year old puts tweezers in a electrical outlet when you have asked her repeatedly not to go near the electrical outlets.

Kids don't LISTEN, therefore you sometimes have to raise your voice and be firm to establish authority, in order to make them listen.

If you don't establish authority, the kids will walk all over you and then you can't take them anywhere.

Answer 9

you dont have children do you ?

ok heres a thing....

you start off with the calm voice but heres the kicker ~ kids under around 12 years of age have no sense of logic (its true) so you cant really reason with them...you can just tell em again and again and again

so parents can oft become frustrated with repeated behaviour....

parents are only human and we are by no means perfect

Answer 10

true, true... but people tend to get short on patience very quickly... it's sad, because we should be teaching our kids patience, and kids really do learn by example. it's a fast paced world and people lead overly busy lives. everyone just needs to step back and remember they are the ones influencing their childrens futures.