If you're the boss of someone who is single, and obviously has feelings for you, and you're single too, and you have feelings for them, what are you supposed to do about your feelings?
2006-07-25 03:00:40 · 15 answers · asked by Martha 2 in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
Think of it this way....You want a job so that you can have money to go out and do stuff, along with taking care of yourself on a daily basis.
Well if an employer gets together with a employee then they can both lose their jobs. So if the two of you both know and you already went this rout then maybe one of you should look for another job.
It is an understatement when they say don't mix buis. with pleasure....It always ends up with more trouble then its worth.
My ex boss got together with a manager in training, and after they got together, she got jelous when ever he would talk to me about work, or anything for that matter, and she even waited for him to leave for the day to take me aside and tell me that when he talks to me or jokes with me she wanted to kick my butt, and that she was really insecure...
Needless to say she quit her job and was moved to another store and they stayed together. They couldn't work together and keep their relationship out of store buis. However She still gets jelous with the female employees that work in that store....
Besides most companys have a policy that states boss and employess should not fratinize and that is also because if the other person wants to retaliate some can turn around and say you are making sexual advances or that you threatend them with their jobs...
Your best best is to go out with people that you don't work with and date outside of work.
Definatly take a cold shower and try to stay away from what could possibly be the worst mistake of your career....It could cost the money you make that you count on, and these days good jobs are hard to find and keep.
2006-07-25 03:17:57 · answer #1 · answered by Not a Daddys Girl 4 · 9⤊ 2⤋
Nothing! While it may seem like fun and you may really like this person, it will be impossible to maintain a professional relationship. If something happens and the personal relationship sours, you are not only looking at losing an employee, there can also be accusations of sexual harassment. It is NEVER a good idea for a person in power to get involved with an underling. Speaking as someone who has been in management for over a decade: DON'T DO IT!
2006-07-25 10:07:19 · answer #2 · answered by Robb 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best option would be for one of you to move to a new department.
It's hard to be seen as a fair boss by the other employees if you have a relationship with one of them. Plus, there's always the possible backlash if the relationship ends. Either the boss having resentment for the employee or the employee having resentment for the boss. That could be a real problem if one of them has enough resentment to act on it (poor performance reports, sexual harrassment suits, etc.)
2006-07-25 10:09:02 · answer #3 · answered by Bob G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're supposed to supress them. Getting involved with subordinates is extremely bad form. Many companies explicitly prohibit this type of relationship. The better ones will can the supervisor who has a relationship with a subordinate, though at that point you'd be free to pursue the relationship.
2006-07-25 10:06:31 · answer #4 · answered by Bostonian In MO 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing. Keep it to yourself, and do not violate the boss / employee relationship. You would open yourself up for all kinds of sexual harassment law suits if you act on your feelings.
If this is the person of your dreams, then quit - and tell them about your feelings. Find another job.
2006-07-25 10:11:48 · answer #5 · answered by BuyTheSeaProperty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not proceed if your company does not approve.
Discuss with a lawyer before proceeding.
Both sign a no lawsuit agreement.
Talk over the problems that might occur.
It's difficult unless both are realistic and fair adults.
Use extreme caution what ever the case if you value your job.
2006-07-25 10:11:09 · answer #6 · answered by mickyyyyy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is totally un ethical to date an employee, it will cause problem among other employees over any special treatment or things like that. You can claim you wont give them any special treatment, but everyone knows it is crap. THe only option is to fire them or get the to quit and hope they still like you enough to date you, and that is still a bad idea
2006-07-25 10:05:46 · answer #7 · answered by Sam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yup, quit the job and then pursue the relationship. Fingers, toes, and many other parts can get burned very badly if you do what you'd like to do.
2006-07-25 10:06:08 · answer #8 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a cold shower!
And forget about any relationship. You will be getting yourself into one HUGE mess in case a relationship would fail.
2006-07-25 10:03:57 · answer #9 · answered by Avatar the last airbender 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, a wise woman who was waiting to exhale once told me. " put your feelings in your shoes, and walk around in them awhile."
Don't jeopardize your job for a fleeting moment... and if you just can't stand the suspense, then at least keep it under your hat.
Good luck!
2006-07-25 10:10:23 · answer #10 · answered by metrobluequeen1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋