calling all sisters.......i'm having problems with mine!?

Question

i'm 13, and my sister is 11. she gets on my nerves all the time and she is always copying my clothes, shoes, hair, ideas, etc. she even bought the same bookbag as me after i asked my mom not to let her. it's been getting on my nerves for a while but now its getting worse. plus, she can be really rude sometimes. we were having family dinner one day and she said i'm never going to get a b/f cuz i'm to ugly and mean. (how would she kno! shes in 5th grade!) and people tell me all the time that i'm pretty.
the worst part of all, she acts like shes my age. she always wants to go shopping and do her nails and everything, and she loves wearing bikinis, but at the same time she thinks she is fat! and when i get on her nerves, she hits me, but when i hit her back she cries! she acts like a 13 year old and a baby at the same time and she isn't either of them. help!
older sisters: tell me how you deal with your sister
little sisters: tell me why you act older than you are and why you copy us.

Answer 1

I'm a middle sister, so I can speak for both sides.

The good news is she likes you enough to want to imitate you (by doing the same things you do and buying what you buy).

It's normal for kids to want to grow up faster than they are, and that explains some of why she is trying to act older. It's also normal for little sisters to annoy the heck out of you.

What can you do?
Well, maybe instead of discouraging her from getting the same things as you, encourage her. She might not like doing it as much if it no longer ticks you off. If nothing else, by not seeing it as a negative thing, but instead as a way of her showing how much she likes you (enough to want to imitate what you are doing), it might be easier to deal with. At the same time, encourage her to come up with some of her own ways to do things.

As to her rude comments, just remember that people don't always mean what they say. She may feel that she is not as pretty as you, and so she attacks you to make her feel better about herself.

As for the hitting, there is no reason anyone should be hitting anyone else. there are always other ways to deal with issues than violence. even though she may hit you (and she needs to understand that that is not acceptable), hitting back won't accomplish anything.

Just remember: at your age, sisters are a pain in the but, no matter what. Luckily, they do tend to grow out of it. ^_^

Answer 2

Ah. I really have had that. A friendship contains 2 aspects of a courting. If all she cares about is herself, then it truly isn't any longer a lot of a friendship! in case you do not even like this pal, then i'd say gradually end putting out with her and chatting with her. in case you do not ought to work out her, then do not. yet when it truly is a pal you do favor to keep, then you really ought to attempt chatting with her more effective about what's occurring on your existence! If she would not care a lot to pay interest or reply, then i'm no longer confident why this friendship might want to be properly worth preserving! She'll only upload more effective rigidity for your existence even as there are genuine acquaintances you may want to be putting out with.

Answer 3

Im a little sister and an older sister so i know what u mean. We copy u guys b/c we think its cool. So next time u go to the store or something try saying something u think she would like shell probly get it and then u get what u want. MY older sis used to pull that on me a lot. But i give her probs it worked! And we grow out of it now i wouldn't b cought dead in the same clothes and stuff as my sis!

Answer 4

Coming from the little sister P.O.V. We act older than we are because we want to be the same age as you. Older sisters even if they are only a year older get to do more things then us. We want that. Not to mention we want to be just like you because then we will seem cooler to people our own age becuse if the 13 years old or whatever age are all doing it, it has to be cool.

Alos coming from the older sister P.O.V. (Yes i have an older and younger.) I try to encourage her to try her own ideas. Even if they seem uncool to me I want to help her start her own ideas. I take her with me every now and again to something -wether it's a movie or just hanging out. It lets her feel cool but at the saem time she has to earn that time.

Answer 5

I got the same problem with you before. My sister is 4 years younger than me and we didn't get along all the time. But now I am 22 years old and of course my sister still copy me. I think I should forgive her because she is my sister. As a elder sister, I don't want to flight with her and after some years.....We learnt to respect one another and now we treat one another more better than ever. I think your sister is still young and she hasn't developed a mature heart yet. Yeah, you could try to stand her more and show her love, very soon your sister would learn somethings from you and she would realize that she was wrong not to respect you.....

take it easy....take some times

Answer 6

My sis is 6 years older than me. Being the younger one, i still never copy her. I am also given more freedom than her and i feel that is bcos wen u hav n older sister ur parents get n idea of wat their kid is like and they know how to deal with the younger one. But the problem is that my sister is a big bully. I m more shy and reserved. So she takes advantage of me. She'll hit me, pinch me etc. But i still can't do without her. At times i hate her and at times i love her.

But i gotta say one thing, ur sister is a brat. She'a being cheeky and rude to u.But she'll take some time to grow outta it.Oncer she's a teen, she'll have her own likes,dislikes. And another thing i've learnt is that most younger sisters think it's cool to bhave like they r older at this age, later on behaving like ur older sister is uncool for them.

Answer 7

when i was your age, my sister and i did NOT get along. she got on my last nerve. she would follow me everywhere and always wanted to be in my space. i would tell my mom or my dad about her constant pestering. they always reminded me that i was the older sister and she was just a kid (5 years my junior). as we got older, she began to act like we were equals in age. it drove me nuts! i grew to resent her more and more as the years passed by. when my mother died, things changed. our constant bickering seemed petty. we slowly grew closer. our relationship became stronger and evolved into something different after the death of our mother. it's as if she brought us together. today, we are closer than ever. we speak to each other everyday and we are so much a like, people refer to us as twins! (we have similar ideas, speak at the time and finish each other's sentences). i love her dearly. with maturity, and patience we've come full circle. you may have a few years of rivalry with your sister ahead, (i hope not). she probably looks up to you. it may be annoying but she may out grow it. just be patient. i know it's hard. good luck honey.

Answer 8

Hey there, I still don't really get along with my younger sister. She is a snob (my mom agrees with me lol). Always about her and never about anyone else. I'm 30, and she is 28 (she lives in Colorado and I live in Georgia)...so good luck in dealing with this problem early. =)

Answer 9

it's ok, really. i am a middle sis. and i got that all the time. i know she irritates you, mine did a lot too. she is looking up to. you are her big sis, and she loves you, even though she is annoying you. she is asking for your attention, and maybe you could have a you and her day picked out one or two days a week. go to the movies, mall, etc. sounds to me that you are a great super sis, and she thinks your cool. :) :) :). go with it, just, no hitting K?

Answer 10

Well....I'm 13 too but my brothers 17. Idk how to stop it but what u could try is to do stuff that she absolutely hates! and then she might stop. Either that or u could tell her all these really dumb jokes...and when your in the house dress really dumb..until she's not looking then change into normal clothes and she'll think your a dork.