my wife just wants to jump right into divorce "if I want to leave", we tried counciling and just don't get along,i just need to step back and relieve my self from the pain. how do/should I try seperation first or do I go for the divo.??
2006-07-25 02:34:07 · 11 answers · asked by Jeremy D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Legal separation is usually the first step. Then the big D. When I got divorced they filed both at the same time. My divorce was quick though. 3 months and it was final. It sounds like you are still holding on. And if she wants to go ahead with the whole thing, then it sounds like she is ready to let go. If you two have tried counseling and things didn't work, and it sounds like you need to step back and take a deep breath. The process is going to proceed whether you want it to or not if she keeps pushing and if you fight it , it will cause more pain and arguing for the both of you. I think you need to let her go, and try to heal your yourself. Things may be different in the near or far future. You can deal with it at that time.
2006-07-25 02:49:04 · answer #1 · answered by Building Beauty 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Separation is usually the last step, its generally followed by filing for divorce but it allows two people to have somewhat a chance to do their own thing and learn if divorce is best for them or not..it should be the last resort to working on the marriage not first step toward divorce....good luck to both of you.
2006-07-25 02:40:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try separation first, you should never rush through a divorce. But don't be separated forever. I would say about six months or so and then file for divorce if nothing has changed.
2006-07-25 02:39:59 · answer #3 · answered by heatherdrake2005 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if you talk to a lawyer they will recommend separation first. How long have you been married? Is there children involved? Do you really think your marriage is worth saving? These are questions I would ask myself before I did anything. She sounds immature,but only you know. Whatever you do,it should be something that will make you happy. You only have one life,why live it in pain.
2006-07-25 03:28:16 · answer #4 · answered by mrsreadalot 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go back to the first day you layed eyes on your wife.How does that feel,you loved something about her once to marry her,instead of growing apart,grow together,sure there are problems this one wont be the last,try to be calm when talking,try to use phrases like" i feel",instead of pointing fingers and saying" you always".Life doesnt get easier if you get another girl,the same problems await you.,so try your very best to make it work before you call it seperation or divorce.Good luck God bless:O)
2006-07-25 03:35:40 · answer #5 · answered by melissa_froggies 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to try something different seek individual counseling first and find out what your true feelings are and how you want to fix things. Then You can discuss it with her and keep boundaries. Check out the book boundaries in marriage.
Good Luck to You and God Bless!!
2006-07-25 02:58:23 · answer #6 · answered by msqtech 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what's right for you. I think she's just trying to keep from leaving. If you feel you need the space, do so. It's really the only way you'll know and probably her too.
2006-07-25 02:47:09 · answer #7 · answered by Carp 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try seperation first. Distance makes the heart grow stronger.
2006-07-25 03:00:44 · answer #8 · answered by lookingforanswers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you yourself leave, you shouldn't slow down the divorce.
2006-07-25 02:49:45 · answer #9 · answered by wmp55 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like shes done, get the divorce for her
2006-07-25 02:43:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋