Have I done the right thing?

Question

I made a friend about a year ago. I have supported her through so much including various failed relationships etc. She recently started trying to take over my life my friends family etc and they all told me to be careful. My boyfriend and I have had a rocky road as we are both divorced. At a BBQ last weekend with my boyfriends family she was clearly trying to cause trouble by telling people things i had told her in confidence. i am understandably upset but she is saying i am punishing her. I told her due to the fact she betrayed confidences and was clearly trying to cause trouble the friendship is over. I really liked her but I don't want anything to jeopardise my future with my boyfriend. Am i justified.

Answer 1

I think that you have done the right thing, its obvious that this girl is disturbed and wants you all to her self by taking all you friends and family away from you leaving only her in your life.

Its sad really but you need to cut this person out of your life and dont give her a second chance.

Its only natural to feel sorry about her and want to stay friends but the longer she is in your life the more she will try to destroy your life.

you will already have to do alot of repair work to the relationships that were damaged by your "friend" at the weekend and to help smooth things over you will need to make sure that this woman is not allowed to set foot in your life again.

Answer 2

Friendship is a two-way thing. Sure she can make a bit of a slip along the way, but that seems quite deliberate!

Your friend sounds like a lot of hard work. She may be a bit jealous of what you have with your boyfriend. I think you were quite right in ending your friendship. Time to be a bit selfish and think of yourself for a change.

Good luck x

Answer 3

Oh yeah most definitely she broke your confidence and was obviously out to cause trouble for you, if you are trying to make things work with your partner and family. I would give her a wide birth as we day in ireland and definitely donot tell her any in coonfidence again you are better off without her she is not a true friend if she could do this to you

Answer 4

yea of course I mean who the hell does she think she is - you got her through a lot I mean noone really ever has time to support someone else through that much of a relationship - and as far as punishing someone......? I dont understand that I think its just an excuse or a reason she is saying all the stuff she recently has - well just dont talk to her or telkl her anymore secrets because the next time she might oput you in a lot of trouble

Answer 5

You know her better than we do. Is her friendship important to you?
All human beings play certain head games. Pointing the finger
at others. Making more out of our problems, to cover up
for thier own.
But if you friend is truly malicious. Jealous-hearted, and envious
of you. It's best to find another friend.

Answer 6

Yes of course you are, i've had so called friends like that and i did the same thing. She is not a friend if she would do that. Dont talk to her again, she's trouble

Answer 7

You have done the right thing. Give yourself a pat on the back. She has started to try to control you and that's the last thing you need. Let someone else have the pleasure of her company, you don't need her.

Answer 8

Think about it, if your boyfriend acted like that would you still go out with him?

If the answer is no then why should your friend be allowed to get away with it?

Answer 9

Well maybe you can still be friends with her, but a little less. Spend more time with your boyfriend and less with her. And now that you know that she can't be trusted don't tell her anything else. But it seems like she needs you.

Answer 10

I think your justified, she is jealous, and envious of you and a true friend would wish the best for you...she seemed to want to take the best from you...I think you did the right thing.