I am married but i feel unhappy, I met someone and we understood each other very well, we have even decided to live together and we planned a lot for our future.
He decided to go on holiday and from this time he didn`t get in touch with me, I called him but he told me he cannot speak at that moment and he would call me later but he didn`t do it.
What schould I do? I love him and can`t live with my husband anymore. Schould I call him again?
2006-07-25 01:46:31 · 24 answers · asked by sony 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
don't build castles in air
this guy already let you down and you still haven't even started with him.
you gotta be real with your self and think. remember for every action there is a reaction.
you might feel unhappy with your husband just coz you think ure in love with this new guy ....
but think about it ... is it worth it to risk your marriage??
i think you have a very clear sign infront of you .... the guy you like goes on a vacation, you call him, he tells you he cannot talk, he says he'll call later and never do ...
gurllll something stinks don't you get it.
don't leave the man ure with for somebody who you think you love ... coz the person who you think you love will leave you for the person who he loves!!!
take care and be wise
2006-07-25 01:58:01 · answer #1 · answered by sue f 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Opps, I bet he is married and had a change of heart :( Sorry to say this, but you should work things out with your husband. It is never a good idea to turn to another man or women when your already in a relationship. It will almost every time end up in a disaster.
I would forget about him and focus that energy on your marriage. You were not right by seeking affection by another man and your husband deserves another chance.
You have to communicate with your husband and tell him how you feel.
Almost 90 % of marriage end because no one wants to talk or LISTEN to one another. So give it another shot with your husband and see what happens.
If your not happy after that, then get a divorce and then find another man after that.
Best of luck to you :)
2006-07-25 08:52:03 · answer #2 · answered by young at heart 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the first thing i wanna tell you is,that guy seems to be just using u as an object of fun.....so you better stick with what u have(i.e ur husband)than running behind something which u aren't really sure of.
secondly i wanna ask u y r u not happy with ur husband doe's he tortures you mentally/physically,if thats the case then u can think of leaving separately...if he is busy with his work u 2 are not able to spend some quality ime together then u shud discusss this matter with him....i am sure he will undesrtand and in a relationship understanding and comprmises are required from bothe sides....evn u have to give up sth fropm ur side....nothing is for granted after all
and realx everything will be ok
keep smiling
le gra
Sne.
2006-07-25 09:17:28 · answer #3 · answered by Sne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to say this but it sounds like he has been using you.
He may have just simply had his fun and decided that you are not what he wants and simply doesnt want to talk to you any more.
Its a horrible thing to do to someone, and someone in your position who is ready to leave her husband for him!
You need to sit down with your husband and tell him why things are not working between you.
Its up to you if you tell him about your affair but chances are you will break up and finish what relationship you have left with him but at least you will be free to find someone else who can make you happy or at the very most you could re find that spark which made you fall in love with him in the first place.
2006-07-25 09:17:02 · answer #4 · answered by matdevine21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The old saying "The grass isnt always greener on the other side"is definitly true.Instead of chasing a man who probably has a wife and a life somewhere else,try making it work with your husband,Something you loved about him made you say i do. When you get a scratch on your arm,you put a bandaid on it and wait for it to heal,you dont just cut your arm off.Try applying this to your marraige,try everything you can think of to heal the relationship,in the long run you will be glad you did.Good luck God bless:O)
2006-07-25 09:12:04 · answer #5 · answered by melissa_froggies 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This happened to me 9 years ago.
I was married, I met a man who I thought was wonderful in every way. I left my husband. Then the other guy went all distant - think he ended up marrying his ex, who lived in San Francisco (we lived in England).
Hurt like hell at the time, confused me, left me feeling very angry. But at least now i can be grateful to him because he helped to show up the problems in my marriage that Iwas trying to ignore.
Sounds like this guy has done the same for you. You haven't left your husband yet but it sounds like it will be very hard for you to go back to how it was before.
Why not lhave a trial separation from your husband and sort out what you want from life before deciding. Be strong on your own, don't rely on another man to rescue you from a marriage that's not working.
2006-07-25 09:03:27 · answer #6 · answered by Leapling 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You love him but does he love you too? It seems he is rejecting your calls and avoiding you. Marriage life is a commitment and a responsibility. Before you engaged into that life you already took the responsibility to face all waves and tidal waves life would bring. Things can be talk out, open door of communication, tell him you love him everytime you see him. I am not saying though to stay in the obligation if it is hurting you but if you can find a way to mend a broken heart, that would be great. Ã
2006-07-25 08:56:12 · answer #7 · answered by slayer0522 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People always think the grass is greener on the other side, then get stung when they realise it is'nt.
Be brave and speak to your husband explain how unhappy you are, your thoughts and feelings you never know he maybe feeling the same and was wondering how to speak to you about?
If you don't ask you will never know................if its not going to work out then you will feel better knowing that you gave it try and did try to sort any problems out.
Best of luck for the future
2006-07-25 08:55:33 · answer #8 · answered by di35mo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get over it. the fact still remains ur married. if ur husband is faithful n respects u there is no nid 2. if the guy knew u were married he probably was just using you, he got a piece of u n thats it 4 him. cheer up girl ur got sum1 2 lean on. u try n mak it work girl. coz nothing is perfect. u move out of this marriage n ur find in o marriages things r not perfect, but ppo try 2 mak things work. u gat the key, do the rite thing
2006-07-25 08:54:41 · answer #9 · answered by lil k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait a reasonable amount of time to see if he calls you. If he doesn't, then you know that he really didn't feel the same way about you that you do about him. Why didn't he take you on holiday with him?
2006-07-25 08:52:32 · answer #10 · answered by kny390 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋