Ok I start dancing this weekend cuz i am in debt so much. I have a man and I cant tell him that I am gonna start dancing so I need an excuse like maybe I work at a bar or something. I am goin to be workin the overnight shift. Me and him stay together so he is gonna know something. I did it one day already and thats when we were fightin so he didnt come home anyway so I got to do what I do. I have to do this it is a must. Its just temporary. I am about to lose my car and house so I need some fast money. He is not to understanding so I cant tell him the deal. Please just help me out on this one. AND DONT SAY "YOU SHOULDNT BE LYING TO HIM ANYWAY" I already know that. I am gonna tell him when time is right.
2006-07-25 01:40:13 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You could tell him you got a job at a gas station or if there's a 24 hr Wal-Mart nearby tell him you work there, but the thing you have to think about is what if he decides to show up for a visit one day..... See now your busted! If it were me I would simply come clean and tell the truth, if he couldn't deal with it then maybe he should start paying your bills. But that could open up a completely different can of worms!
2006-07-25 01:48:21 · answer #1 · answered by DialM4Speed 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It will be much easier to just go ahead and tell him the truth now instead of waiting til the times right. You can always lie and say you're a waitress or a bartender but what happens when he wants to visit you on the job? Is that the point you say...oh, I'm really a stripper? I think that would be very bad timing. Just go ahead and do it. If he doesn't like it, what's the worst thing that can happen?
Hope your situation gets better soon! Best wishes.
2006-07-25 01:45:30 · answer #2 · answered by dolphin2253 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what u have to do like u said he should understand if he's not even helping you get out of debt if he has a problem with it then tell him he needs to give u some money and help out. If he can't then tell him to deal with it. It mght be hard for him because he is your man and don't want nobody else lookin at u, but somehow he will get over it,it's not like you're doing this for fun. You're trying to survive and if he's not helping then oh well. Give him 2 options either he helps u with more money or you go out and do it your way.
2006-07-25 01:47:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you're juggling three things that you can't keep up in the air at once: debt, boyfriend, dancing. When he finds out you will either lose him or find yourself physically abused. There won't be any "the time is right", and if by that you mean "after we're married" or "when I'm pregnant", then I'd say you'll deserve what you get.
I think you should instead consider losing your car or your house. Or your boyfriend.
2006-07-25 01:46:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i respect your decision it is rather to be honest in dealings working in a bar as a dancer and so on does not mean you are bad time made it this way but no man will easily give in to love ones it is just like hire and fire. basically man always pick on first hand and not second there are few good angels who will come in to help as the saying goes charity begins at home. good luck try in a jackpot if u strike u will wear this off. your true luv should take as how u r.
2006-07-25 01:48:42 · answer #5 · answered by sarjit 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear he come to know your problem sooner or later, if he come to listen it later then its gonig to be a big blow to him and to your relation too, there is no thing like right time, you need to tell him right now casue man's cannot understand thing when females done and say to him ok i been through to it, that time male feels that you dont have importane to him plus might he be able to manage money for you... might your luck work this way my suggestion is that dont wait for right time just tell him not by fighting but with love.
Keep Smiling and keep in Touch.
Allah Hafiz
2006-07-25 02:08:53 · answer #6 · answered by Nadeem B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U mean stripping? Or dancing?
Oh man u might loose him if it's stripping if he's not OK with. But if you lie to him and somebody sees you and they tell him you'll loose him. If you lie and he finds out you loose him. If you pull it off your guilty and feel bad and he'll sense it and if he somehow takes that for your cheating on him you'll loose him..... be careful what you do..... SO JUST TELL HIM
2006-07-25 01:45:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to decide if making money is more important than your relationship. Lying about where you are going, what you are doing isn't going to help your already rocky relationshp. If you really loved him you wouldn't lie.
2006-07-25 01:47:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when the time is right mostly means never, but try to excuse that your staying over a friend who is really in a lot of trouble right now.
2006-07-25 01:43:45 · answer #9 · answered by fenrir_131 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHY WOULD HE NOT HELP YOU IN THE FIRST PLACE? IF HE DIDN'T COME HOME IN THE FIRST PLACE....HE WOULD NEVER COME HOME AGAIN. I SUGGEST THAT YOU JUST TELL HIM. HE WILL EITHER GET OVER IT OR OR BE GONE. YOU ARE YOUR OWN PERSON.... DO WHAT YOU HAVE TO DO. BUT TELL HIM BECAUSE IN THE LONG RUN...YOU WILL HAVE MORE RESPECT FOR YOURSELF. THEN WHAT YOU ARE DOING WONT SEEM SO BAD. GOOD LUCK!!
2006-07-25 01:50:13 · answer #10 · answered by mommaofmany 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋