This is marriage #2. !st one lasted 19 yrs - 3 kids. This one is 3 1/2 yrs and we have a 2yr old. She doesn't know if she wants to stay. Things have been bad for about 1 yr. I have worked 2 jobs since we have been together, she wanted me to quit, but I thought we needed to have the money to get ahead. She is always e-mailing and on the computer or cell phone. She has lots of male friends thru this thing called SCA. She says they are all just friends. They live 2 - 3 hrs away and she only sees them 3 or 4 times a year. Maybe she is just talking and joking. We are in counseling but have not gone together yet. We go together in about 2 weeks. She kisses me good bye in the morning and we do things around the house and have "general" converstaion,,,but thats it. I did put in my notice to quit the other job....just to try and help us out.
2006-07-25 01:02:57 · 10 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think you should try to have more interest in the things your wife is doing. Join the SCA yourself and find out what it is really about please. I would also find out a way to cut costs so you can quit one of your jobs. These will free up some time to devote to your wife and children. They need you.
2006-07-25 01:09:42 · answer #1 · answered by Aumatra 4 · 8⤊ 1⤋
Sorry you're going thru this. From experience, I can say (in my situations) love does not come back!! It's sad to hear that, I know. But once the love has been thru many obstacles, etc, it seems to fade. Some couples are strong, some are not. If one person continues trying to bring back the love and the other has already surpassed it, there's little hope. Usually, the one partner already has his/her mind made up. And nothing the other person does,is going to change their mind. Keep your head up, let go and move forward. You deserve a life, too. Good luck
2006-07-25 01:31:56 · answer #2 · answered by andie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she truly loved you then the love hasn't gone away... but in the day to day hustle and bustle of live it is so easy to forget why you came together in the first place. Trust me I work two jobs myself and it leaves little time for life much less your relationship.. I work out of necessity but if your job isn't essential to your finances right now if you truly value the relationship then my suggestion would be to give it up for awhile and concentrate on your marriage.... because those may truly be just friends right now ... but if she continues to feel unimportant and neglected then one may become more than just a friend...
2006-07-25 01:39:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you care and are trying to save your marriage. Does your current wife complain about money? If so , is she willing to work to help out? Do not accuse your wife of wrong doing unless you see or hear concrete evidence of it. If the conversations with the male friends are making you uncomfortable, speak to her about it and if they are getting too close, ask to meet them. That should relieve any unfounded suspicions you may have. Sexual relationships change with time but real love does not just disappear. Best wishes.
2006-07-25 01:14:12 · answer #4 · answered by Jess4rsake 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to tell you that, but I don't think she's in love with you any more. As I can see, she likes playing games with other men and she has understood that she's not ready for a marrige and that your marriage was wrong.
It's time to get a divorce and live your life. YOU DESERVE MORE THAN A GOODBYE KISS IN THE MORNING!!! YOU NEED A WOMAN THAT WILL REALLY CARE ABOUT YOU AND LOVE YOU!!!
2006-07-25 01:13:47 · answer #5 · answered by super_sexy_amazona 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well im not so experienced in this field... but its not about love.... its about compromise.... i found that out the hard way... carry on going to counciling... but she cant make all the decisions.... she must also understand
the thing with the guy friends dont worry about that.... just watch how she talks to them,,, its not what you say its how u say it....
2006-07-25 01:11:23 · answer #6 · answered by Nicole 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love never leaves, it's keeping it alive thats hard. give here gifts never forget why she stood out from the rest make sweet sweet love to her even when your tires, never say good-bye, always say "i'll come back to you"
2006-07-25 01:08:41 · answer #7 · answered by fenrir_131 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear that pal.. But somehow I think it's not gonna work.
2006-07-25 01:10:16 · answer #8 · answered by Baby Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NOPE CHANCES ARE SHE IS BANGING AT LEAST A COUPLE OF THEM WISE UP TELL HER TO KICK ROCKS
2006-07-25 01:08:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it does and i think it will
2006-07-25 01:05:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋