I dont know if i still want to be with my husband, weekends he just wants to drink and in the week he is in a bad mood
2006-07-25 00:53:07 · 20 answers · asked by annie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Im sure u probably do love your husband u just dont love the way he is actting right now is whats the problem.. but by enabling him to treat u this way and act this way , ur almost as guilty as he is doing it.. time to get a back bone and figure out if ur willing to throw away a "VOW" u made to him "good times and bad" or if your willing to atleast try all that u can to get this to be a healthy relationship again.. stop being the victim and regain control of your life and your marriage.. If it means going to counseling to learn the tools to make it better then do it.. if it means stop actting like a wife, as far as taking care of his needs laundry, cooking, cleaning, sex, ect.. then stop and tell him when he wants to start treating u like a wife, he can have one , till then tuff..
Good luck...
2006-07-25 01:11:10 · answer #1 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You promised to love him for life. Why don't you talk to your husband and before he starts to drink, find out what is making him have such a bad mood. Encourage him to find other ways, such as exercise or social life to express his negative feelings and get rid of them. Remind him that you still care because you are still his wife and love him. Keep your promise and work to help your husband feel better and save your marriage. What do you think might have caused the changes you are seeing in him?
The man does not live in a vacuum. Become an influence in his life. Don't just give up on your marriage without any effort to save it.
2006-07-25 01:06:03 · answer #2 · answered by Jess4rsake 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you started your question with "i dont know..." says that this may not be about your husband at all. As difficult as it may be for you to hear, and even admit to yourself, you may have some deep seated issues yourself. If it wasnt the drinking and the bad mood, it would be something else. You have the answers with you and your fear is the only thing keeping you from them.Have you spoken to him, does he know what you need? DO YOU KNOW WHAT YOU NEED?
You need to be assertive and take responsibility for your own happiness. Your husband is probably bored as well and this may be the only way he knows to let off some steam. You two need to communicate.
2006-07-25 01:14:20 · answer #3 · answered by Cabash 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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Visit this page and you will find all the information about alchoholism.
In my opinion, you shouldn't leave your husband now, HE NEEDS MORE THAN YOU CAN IMAGINE!!! Help him to get over this situation!!! I can understand that it hurts, but you can't stop loving him because he started drinking and he is in a bad mood!!!
Maybe he's not an alchoholic, maybe he has problem with his job for example. Why don't you try to have a nice conversation with him? BUT BE CAREFUL NOT TO START A FIGHT BECAUSE THIS WILL LEAD TO NOWHERE!!!
2006-07-25 01:03:54 · answer #4 · answered by super_sexy_amazona 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go for councelling or leave. If he is going to treat you at this low level, you deserve a lot more out of life...make the most of your life as you dont want to look back at the wasted years. If you still love your husband you will be happy most of the time, enjoy each others company and truely feel at peace.
2006-07-25 00:58:15 · answer #5 · answered by nat n 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a heart-to-heart. Tell him exactly what you told us all here, tell him that you both need counseling or it could be the end of the line for you both.
What is the root cause of his drinking? Is he unhappy with work, the way his life has gone or is going? Financial difficulties? Perhaps you can help him work through these things and lift him from the depths of his depression.
If he is an alcoholic . . . AA.
2006-07-25 00:58:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know it hurts but it will be best if you sit him down and talk to him about it okay? may be he is in that mood because of you so it will best if you guys sit down and solve it out. find out the reason why he does not spend time with you, ask him whether it is something you are doing that he is not feeling comfortable with. but if he still odes not want to spend time with you after solving the issue then i think it will be best if you stay away because he will make your life a living hell
2006-07-25 01:00:12 · answer #7 · answered by miwinky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are asking yourself the question, the answer is probably no (or not much, or not enough to be together). Have you talked to him about these issues? First step, communication. Second step, working on resolving the issues. If resolution isn't possible, then it may be time to think of moving on.
2006-07-25 00:56:28 · answer #8 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your asking this question, then you already know what the outcome will be. Dont know to much about your past to say if its worth saving. But sounds as if you need some marriage help !
2006-07-25 00:56:41 · answer #9 · answered by Baghdad Pete ! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maariage is not something u eat then if u get a litle bit hurt ul leave him,. nyways. i gues ur juz being lonesome or lack of attention from ur husband dats y u tink negatively,. try to catch his attention,. cook someting for him his favorite ting to eat,. or invite him to some ting dat u migth tink hel enjoy,. if its still not working,. i guess its true u doent want ur husband anymore bt u try some effort to work ur relationship or ur filings as well.
2006-07-25 01:01:04 · answer #10 · answered by tazmania 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋