the question is big, but please read... i need some help...
my gf says she wants to have babies. i told her that we're both young and that we should think about it in 5 or 10 years from now... i said exacly those words... but she started saying that i don't want them cause i don't love her and stuff like that. she said she was gonna leave me if i dind't make up my mind (?!)...
i don't get it... she's only gonna stay if i agree to do something only because she wants?? if i was the one wanting the kids she would leave cause i was forcing her to so something she didn't want...
it's not like i don't love her... it's just that i'm not ready for it yet...
what should i do to make her stay and show her my point of view??
2006-07-25 00:44:04 · 5 answers · asked by Sam. 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Tell her if you didn't love her you wouldn't be wasting your time with her and tell her that basically you feel your not mature enough to be a father right now. If she can't deal then it's her problem, you may lose her but it's better than giving in and knocking her up.
2006-07-25 02:33:22 · answer #1 · answered by DialM4Speed 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this is a hard one. do you know anyone that had a baby recently? if so ask them is you and your girlfriend could baby set for at lest 4 hours. that mite change her mind about it. but if that dint work set her down and tell her you love her and yes you would love to have kids someday. let her know were you stand in life you. like your job, do you make enough to support this baby?and housing, do you have the room? do you have the time? let her think about that and give her some goals you and her can work on before have a baby.
2006-07-25 07:58:07 · answer #2 · answered by brandi g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have already expressed yourself and have been honest with her. Having kids is one thing you really shouldn't do until ready. You can't make her stay and she shouldn't try to make you be a dad until your ready. Uh, I would be very, very careful regarding birth control with her if she is so adament.
2006-07-25 07:50:52 · answer #3 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her if she knows how expensive it is to raise kids. I have two and both my wife and I work ($100K+) and we still don't have any money. It is best to wait. If she insists, bail out, you'll be behind the 8 ball the rest of your life.
2006-07-25 08:11:26 · answer #4 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she doesn't want to compromise and see your point of view whats the point ? stick to what you believe ,if you are not ready don't be forced into something that you will regret later.
2006-07-25 07:50:04 · answer #5 · answered by nitenurse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋