My friend recently died of a heart attack. Is it OK for me to tell his circle of friends that I believe......

Question

he died of a drug overdose? They are all saying he had a heart murmer, but I don't believe the cover-up. I'm also not going to atttend his funeral like everybody else because I don't know his parents? Will all of his friends hate me for my actions?

Answer 1

Why as soon as a person dies do they become a saint? I had a relative who was in a lot of trouble and not a very nice person to be around. As soon as he got killed he became a saint! To here people tell it he never did any thing wrong, yet when he was alive most of our relatives would avoid him! Don't go to the funeral it will be hard not speak the truth! I once went to a funeral and the preacher started talking about what a nice person so-and-so was and I started laughing and could not stop Your best bet is to stay home! Around his friends tell the truth they probably know already and you may be a breath of fresh air! .

Answer 2

If your friend is young, the chances are that there was an autopsy done to find out what caused his death. I have a heart murmer - so do a LOT of people - you don't generally die from it. You are saying your friend died of a heart attack. Why would you want to tell people you think it was a drug overdose when you clearly say it was a heart attack? That doesn't make sense. Also, what exactly are you trying to accomplish? Think of what your real motives are here.

Answer 3

At this point why does it matter if he died from a drug over dose or had a heart murmur? Let him rest in peace, and instead of trying to work everybody up, try to help them deal with the loss. And, unless you are 100% certain that he died of a drug overdose (EX: you spoke with his doctor) I would not start to talk to his friends or family about your suspicions. Unless that is you want a large number of people resenting you. I am sorry about the loss of your friend.

Answer 4

I think you should think through what benefits there would be in telling his circle of friends your theory. Certainly, without an autopsy, there is no way to prove or disprove your assertion. It won't bring your friend back. It may cause his friends and family pain to consider it. You might bring a lot of anger directed at you if you put forth this accusation. So, what benefits do you see to saying something? Also, what does not knowing his parents have to do with attending the funeral? They'll probably be to busy with their grief to pay much attention to whether or not they know everyone there. So, go and pay your respects to your friend, regardless of how you think he died.
Good luck.

Answer 5

If you loved your friend, you should go to his funeral. Funerals are there for people to say their last words to someone who has died. I've been to the funeral of a boy I barely knew, let alone his parents, and it was a life changing experience.

My boss's son was stabbed to death a few months ago. There were dozens of employers for a lot of different restaurants and businesses who came just because he was such a good customer and a unique character. She enjoyed meeting these people, it was just more proof that her son was truly a special kid.

So if you go, you can either go just for yourself, or go tell his family members what he meant to you. It's up to you.

Answer 6

Hello!
No I don't feel as though it would be wrong to do that it's just that I woulden't and only because of his parents.You don't want someone telling them that someone is going around spreading lies about their son,you know that sooner or later something will come back to you that you should not be speading these lies about their son.

I'ed leave that alone because no matter what you believe their going to believe what they were told first and if it doesn't match what your saying then that would cause alot of problems and they just lost their son they don't need to hear that it might of been because of drugs.

Well remember that you should always put yourself in somebody elses place before you throw stones and then ask yourself if you would want to hear such stories about your love one that you'ed just lost.

Kamala!

Answer 7

Whatever your opinion or anyone Else's is,it won't bring your friend back.So I suggest keeping it to yourself.It will only cause friction between yourself and people with a different thought on how he died.If he was truly your friend then you should go to his wake and funeral as a tribute to that friendship.You don't have to know someones parents to go to their funeral.You can meet them then to console them and relay to them good things about their son.Parents who have lost a child,at any age,for whatever reason need this.Do the right thing.

Answer 8

What does it matter? You don't know for sure, so why put everyone through it. It just seems spiteful. Even if he did OD, he's gone and it will not bring him back. Maybe the story is there to spare some of the family. Maybe it's the truth.

His friends don't need this right now, keep your opinions to yourself.

Answer 9

you can express your opinion only and only if they solicit for it, but for you to open up the topic is not advisable.

if in the event that they ask for your opinion, remember that in doing so, you have to deliver it in such a way that it is not offending and with all pure intentions of revealing the truth....

as to the initial reaction of his parents or other friends, we can not hold on if they will be able to accept this at the funeral itself because at the moment they are feeling the pain of loss, i suggest that proper timing should also play a good role

Answer 10

If he was really your friend, let his passing have some dignity. Don't you think he would want that? Wouldn't you?Of course they would hate you, they know the truth deep down. You should feel sorry for them at this time. Not make it worse. Be a friend after death the same as before.