i have this boyfriend......?

Question

i have this boyfriend and everyone in my family basicly hates him and they dont even know him...but heres the catch..hes black and im white....they think blaks-black ,white-whites...ect! its really annoying and my sis bothers me alot with it
also i feel like im just his rebound girl because his last girlfriend broke up with him like 3 time and they just kept getting back together and he got over her in like 2 min and came to me...i feel like he just wanted a girlfriend and i was jsut the best thing he could find....but yeah please help ...we have been going out like 3 months and ive had alot of time to think about this since its summer...i havent seen him for like 2 months and it sucks...whats should i do?

the bad thing is i cant see him because my parents hate him...also hes in illinos to see his mom right now...and what else sucks is he has called twice and we only talked like 1 min! thats a bummer.. he also said he would call me back yesturday..still hasnt.uuuuuuhhh....yeah....

im chosing the answer i chose but just because i did doent mean there wernt good answer other then this one but this one is actually reasonal! i mean i would really like if i had a white boyfrien because its less akward but whatever i really like her answer!

there are 4 REALLY great answers the one from Dani,Captain obvious,and lil one. but i expesially likethe one i chose....happy 10 points::::::::::::::

Answer 1

You are a little young to worry about this.

Relationships are hard enough but when you through color in the mix it makes a mess for some people.

I say leave him alone especially if your family doesn't like him. The only reason I say this is b/c it could get messy. I have heard many cases of young black males being sent off to jail for having consensual sex with a white girl. When her family finds out that their daughter is sleeping with a a black male they call it rape. I think that if you are attracted to black men you should date them when you are much older, not living with your parents and can make your own decisions.

Also, never be the rebound girl. you need to learn this right now! It's never the spot you every want to be in.

And to Dez. I understand your frustration about depleting the white race. There are tons of people that think like you, so if you all get together you can keep the white race going. You stick to your guns! But don't tell this young lady to stop having feelings for another race. If you don't like it then you don't have to do it. And like I said, I'm sure that there are tons of people that think like you so you all can get together.

Answer 2

Well the good news is.....i dont think ur a rebound girl. If you were, im pretty sure he wouldve gone back to his ex a while ago and dumped you. But if ur very worried, just ask him. Im sure hell understand if u just talk to him. About ur family....a lot of people are very prejudiced and sadly, there really isn't much you can do to fix that. Try not to bring the subject up to much to save both u and ur fam pain. Second, when ur sisters tease you about it, try not to listen. Just say to them very calmy.....I am a better person than you'll ever be, because i do not judge on color, only on heart. It will probably stop them dead in their tracks. And if it doesn't, just show them ur hapy with him and they will prolly get jealous. I'm sure hes a great guy and if there is one thing give learned from my current bf, its that having a little faith in your guy is important. Im not sayin trust him cimpletely, but have a little more faith in him than to think he would use you just as a rebound girl. And even though he may eventually go back to his ex, that doesn't mean he never had feelings for you and doesn't now. And you say ur the best thing he could find like ts a bad thing! Ur the best! dont think any less than the best of urself! he wanted the best and he found it, and if he chooses to ditch the best hes got, then hes not worth it. But dont worry, give it time, everything will be ok. And sometimes time can hep with prejudices too. If u need more help just im or email me. [e-mail] good luck girl!

Answer 3

Jen,
You're under 13 so even though this all feels like the biggest thing and the end of the world, it isn't and you have plenty of time to find other boyfriends so quit stressing. I know it might seem like a million years away but when you get into high school you'll have all the guys you want (assuming you are good looking) Even if you're not that good looking, as long as you have a really great personality, you'll find several guys to pick from. Don't worry about this guy. Worry about your narrowminded racist parents. You can have any color guy you want. Just find a good one. He doesn't have to have the coolest clothes or be popular. He just has to be nice to you. Don't make demands on him like he has to buy you stuff or he has to have a car or whatever, If he really really likes you or even loves you, give him a chance. Of course, be careful of guys who will say anything just to get into your pants. Take your time to make sure the guy really likes you before you get into the heavy physical sexual stuff. A squeeze and kiss will be ok as long as you two are really close to the same age but leave sex alone till you're of legal age for your state (most states it's 16, some it's 17 and some it's 18). Most importantly, you DON'T NEED A BOYFRIEND. You just want one. That's ok too but don't freak out if you don't have one. Don't be afraid to be "alone" sometimes. The more you develope YOUR OWN personality , the more people will want to be close to you.

Answer 4

First off, Black black white white, is how it should be, Im not a racist, but i do not like seeing this, for two reasons, if you have kids, they wont be black or white, and eventually people like you will destroy the white race by polluting the white gene pool. Secondly it sound like he never really bereaks up with his ex, you ARE his rebound girl, so i would get rid of him and find yourself a nice WHITE boyfriend, then you will have a good relationship with your parents again. Its not your fault that you are attracted to black people, It is society that has preached about racial equallity and forced us therough the last 15 years to accept it. Im 23 and Am sick to death of all this interracial bulls**t

Answer 5

Dump this guy. Not because of the racial matters or your family, because this guy is not for you. I have the most loyal boyfriend ever and he'll call just to hear my voice. You can do so much better than this guy. You'll end being a lot happier in the long run. It may not feel like it now, but you'll be better off.

Answer 6

if you really like him, try to convince your paents his sweet side. if there is a lack of communication, maybe you need a little time off to see if he's the one for you. parents are parents... most of the time they hate who you are with. but the whole white w/white, black w/ black is wrong. if you have feelings for someone, it shouldn't matter their race or religion, what matters is you care about that person

hope this helps

Answer 7

cross-cultural relationships are difficult esp if it invovles colours. i'm sorry to hear that ur family disapproves of ur relationship with him. but maybe they have their reason. for sister for example, is trying to look out for u. maybe this is their "reason" for u to break up instead of telling u the truth. in relationships, outsiders sometimes see the real truth to it. what you are feeling is common. you feel insecure as he keep going back to his ex. and if he cant move on even when he's with you, he's not worth it. you should talk to him openly and discuss this issue with him. but my only advice to you, as others as given to me: be with a guy that truly loves and devotes himself to you instead of being with someone you love. and always use your head not your heart to think. coz in the future, love is not everything. its cruel, but thats life.

Answer 8

Dump him , you could do so much better than him !
He is just useing you as his rebound girl .
If you did not see him for that long than I would move on .
Good luck :)

Answer 9

Call him our if your that desprate see him!

Answer 10

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