Dear all,what do you think if someone you know has an affair with your husband?

Question

This lady is some1 who knew me & my husband.She started developing feelings for my husband and vice versa.Recently I found out about their secret rendevous and my husband ask for a 2nd chance to start with him. What do you think of this 'bxxxx", should I confront her? My husband has said that he will try to minimise talking to her and will not see her in person anymore and said that he knows his mistakes and will break off with her. However, this 'bxxxx' is still on his MSN list, how can I believe it? Do you think they are still in contact?

Pls advise..

Hi all,tks for all ur answers.However, he doesn't know that I hv his password to his MSN, so i cant ask him why is she still on his list. So how will i know they are not in contact and can i really trust him again?Its really tough for me to track them unless I spend $ on a PI again.

Answer 1

if his willing to get all your trust again, no doubt he should cut ALL communication with that girl.. you should only confront that girl if you can see that your husband is doing his part by avoiding the girl and shes the one doing the flirting and effort.. but if your husband is still communicating with the girl (no valid reasons or anything please) much probably they will still continue doing something behind your back.. its hard if a guy becomes a cheater coz most stay as a cheater.. tell your husband what you want and in detail form to win your trust..

Answer 2

It is not a good thing to know that your husband had an affair with someone you know. But the main question is will you trust your husband again? The rest of the question is not important anymore. If a couple don't trust each other or one party lost the trust of another party (maybe in your case), do you think you can live happily as before?
Don't ever confront the lady as this may create another opportunity for the lady and your husband to be together and make you looks like a loser. Sometimes you really need to cool down and think before you made a final decision. Any decision you made when you are angry is not wisest move. So I believe you are able to judge the case better when you have cool down.

Answer 3

I'm sorry to tell you this, but now that you know what is going on it just makes it that much more exciting for them. He has said he will "try" to minimise talking to her, oh common.... his not even sorry! She is still in his MSN, there is still something going on. Kick him out, say you need time alone to think and see if he goes running to her.

Answer 4

Once a cheater - always a cheater.

Trust takes about 5-6 years to build back - are you up for that? If you don't have kids, I'd get out.

Try to minimize talking with her...and feelings...sounds like a lot of heartache.

Answer 5

Blamed your husband, approach your husband and talk to him about your feeling. Warn your husband also that he may get his own taste of his medicine. That mean, you too will go and flirt around if he keep the affair on. AS a man, he definite cannot tolerate of wife fooling around.

Answer 6

Is she married if she is go to her husband with what you know wreck her marriage like she has done to you.

About trusting your husband not to have contact with her is going to be very hard as he has lost your trust due to his betrayal you may never trust him again and they say if you have no trust you have no relationship

Answer 7

first of all it will be best if you stay calm because she new the man she slept with is your husband and your husband is also aware that he slept with his wife's friend, so i will say that do not even altar a word just give them as much rope as they want and leave everything to god.

Answer 8

if i were you i would change the locks. kick him out. he says he don't want to see her again, that's not true! he will just make sure he is sneaker. trust me you will be better of with out someone running around on you.

Answer 9

invite her over - have a 3-some

Answer 10

Who knows..difficult one