hi i'm 21 n have a 1 yr old n i've just found out i'm expecting another 1?

Question

i'm still living with my parents but i'm not sure what to do keep it or not i've only got until fri to decide can any1 help

Answer 1

well how could u do that? anyhow i suggest u shouldn't have the 2nd one so early...coz that affects your health as well as both children as you could not be able to give enough to both of the babies. And even if you manage you wont be able to give them a great childhood therefore please concentrate more on the 1st one and keep gap of atleast 3-4 years for the next one. GOD BLESS YOU!

Answer 2

If you only have till Friday to decide, I take it the reason for that is how far into pregnancy you are. If I am right in what I'm saying, then you must be nearing 24 weeks. I am a firm believer that it should be an individual's decision on what to do, as nobody else apart from you is going to bring that child up. However, I also know that by 24 weeks you are no longer carrying something that does not resemble a child, you now have a perfectly formed human being. Theoretically if you give it another two weeks and should the baby be born at 26 weeks, these days with advanced medical help, your baby will have a good chance of survival. I think you get my point which in case you didn't: You would be killing a human being. Any stage of abortion is not nice and women don't reach decisions easily, but to be honest this should be an 'easy' decision for you based on how far you are gone. Don't abort it, love it. If you can manage with one, you'll manage with 2. My mum had my bro at 20, me at 21, and later had another. Yes it was hard she says, but she has no regrets. Please, give it a chance to live, it is now fully formed, not just the size of rice.

Answer 3

That's tough. You've got to think through the consequences of your actions, ask yourself some hard questions and be honest with yourself.

1. If you were not pregnant right now, what is your belief about abortion?

2. If you were to get an abortion, how would that effect you?
a. Would you feel guilty?
b. Could you forgive yourself?
c. Would you change your sexual habits so this doesn't happen again?

3. If you decide to continue the pregnancy, what are your options?
a. Adopt the baby to a family that can't have children and could provide a good life for it? (some adopters now allow the birth mom to stay in contact with the child)
b. Keep the baby, it would be difficult but people do it and manage some how.

Educate yourself as much as possible. Talk to women who have had abortions and others who chose adoption; do a search on the web on the subjects. I feel for you having to make this decision but as an adult the ball is in your court, you are past the age of people telling you what to do. I wish you the best of luck and please be careful next time! :-)

Answer 4

I'm guessing that since you're living with your parents they're either supporting you totally or at least partially supporting you and your child. Since you will more than likely still be living with them you need to sit down and discuss all of your options with them. It's not fair of you to bring another baby into the world and then expect other people to take care of him/her. I'm not saying this is the case..I'm just going by what you have posted.

Keep in mind that there is always adoption. You could make a childless couple's dream come true if you really don't want to keep and raise the baby yourself. Abortion isn't the only solution.

Regardless of what you decide to do in the future be extra vigilant with your birth control. This will save you from going through all of this again until you are ready to have another baby.

Answer 5

You need to make that decision on your own, no-one else knows your circumstances like you. Ask your friends, family and the father. There is definatly no shame in being a single mother if you can raise your kids well. Things change and you wont be living at home forever and could find your self meeting the right man soon......but 2 young kids is a handful even in a stable familly enviroment. its a hard one.

Answer 6

I know you will hate hearing my opinion..and that is just what it is.. but I feel you should be more mature and accept your responsibilities.. What really broke my heart on your question is.. You didn't even discuss the dad to be. If you know who the father is then get his thoughts on this. Talk to your parents...Are they willing to help out once again with another child. Last but not least... settle down and be a good mother to YOUR children. Good luck with what ever you decide.

Answer 7

It;s hard to have 2 children under the age of 2. SOunds like to me you really need to get out on your own.. Your going to have 2 children in your parents home..You should keep the baby. I know it will be difficult but it's your responsibility. If your going to continue to have unprotected sex maybe the new birth control implant or having your tubes ties will prevent unwanted pregnancies in the future..

Answer 8

Why dont u be more careful when ur having sex in the first place! Why dont u talk it thru with your parents then at least then u know where u stand with regards to living arrangements. Only you could make the decision, could you cope with another child? Could you live with having an abortion? good luck with it

Answer 9

if your parents want to keep it they could or just give it up for adoption. they have a new grandparents law where the grandparents get money from the state to help them take care for the children. some states only. but you should have got your tubes tied, if you didn't;t want any more. that is so sad you are so young. good luck in whatever decision you make.

Answer 10

Personally, I would keep it. Give your little one a brother or sister. If you are living with your parents they must be supportive of you already.

Discuss it with your parents. See what they think too and think about the future when your child is growing up. Do you want them to have a similar age sibling?

The end decision is of course yours.

Answer 11

only you can make that choice don't listen to the rest of us on here don't be pressured into doing something you might regret that goes for all choices, keeping it, having an abortion, or giving it up for adoption.good luck for what ever you decide

I'd just like to add to everybody that suggested using birth control of some sort, even if you use condoms or you are on the pill YOU CAN STILL GET PREGNANT.