last night and I tried to contact my boyfriend who is usually so reliable, his phone was off and he wasn't at home, so I called his best friend. I managed to get hold of my bf, but he wasn't very supportive and I ended up hanging up on him. He hasn't mailed or called me this morning. Was I harsh to hang up on him? I don't want to contact him as I don't think I am in the wrong. Any idea greatly received...
2006-07-25 00:18:52 · 21 answers · asked by jmhale2005 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Guys are not usually that sensitive, especially when their young. They don't know what you're going through. So you should excuse them and hope that at some point they figure out what happened.
2006-07-25 00:22:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am so sorry for your loss and I will pray that you find comfort in this hard time. I don't mean to sound insensitive but you have to worry about yourself now in this hard time. Your boyfriend if he truly cares about you will understand that you are in pain and will eventually come around but if he doesn't, then hanging up the phone on him was no where near harsh. You need to seek comfort in God and other people who are affected by your loss. You need as much support as you can get and you don't need more things that is going to make you depressed like your boyfriend not calling. I hope he calls you soon and if you need to vent, you can email me because I think everyone needs extra support when facing the loss of a family member. God bless you and take care.
2006-07-25 07:29:13 · answer #2 · answered by sam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly i am so sorry for your loss, Some people are very uncomfortable with death and dont know what to say or do. But I dont think you were rude to hang up, you deserve support from a partner in a crisis. My bet is he will call and be sorry, listen to his reasons before you yell at him but make sure he understands how he let you down. Look after yourself right now and waste no time worrying about how you might have been rude, you are grieving and need to give yourself a break. Take Care xx
2006-07-25 07:32:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I`m sorry to say but it sounds like your bf wasn't as reliable as you thought in your time of need when you needed him the most.unless he had other things going on at the time in which i would wonder what was more important then yourself.No your not wrong dear and i`m sorry for you and your family`s lost.But remember your lost one is in a better place now
2006-07-25 07:40:30 · answer #4 · answered by brenda S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some guys find it hard to deal with emotion like that especiall over the phone think it would have been better if you had asked him to call round you probably find he would have been very supportive. As for not hearing from him today he maybe thinks you need space call him
2006-07-25 07:33:22 · answer #5 · answered by miss tigger 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, no , you haven't been harsh , but perhaps impolite.
however , if u have lost a family member it is but obvious that u would be likely to behave irrationally and emotionally. so don't worry , your bf will eventually call u once he realizes he's been in the wrong. till then , my sympathies are with you . be there for the rest of your family.
2006-07-25 07:24:01 · answer #6 · answered by dxb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously with out knowing the details of the phone call it hard to say for sure, but it sounds like he was being a bit of a sh¡t.
Wait for him to contact you, he should feel bad and if he cares about you he'll call. If not, he really is a sh¡t and you should dump him.
2006-07-25 07:23:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is probably scared witless and doesn't know how to behave or what to do. Be patient with him, not everybody can cope with these situations.
It must be incredibly hard for you, I hope you find the comfort that you need, and that you bf can see that you need TLC in huge doses.
My hear goes out to you, I hope this is smoe little comfort.
2006-07-26 01:36:27 · answer #8 · answered by isalkeld 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear about your loss. I think you did nothing wrong you wanted supported from your b/f. If he is worth your feelings he will call you otherwise you become wiser and move on.
2006-07-25 07:24:07 · answer #9 · answered by Indian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't know the circumstances. was it really late when you phoned? did you wake him up? perhaps you caught him off guard. sometimes we women expect men to react to us in a certain way when in fact they choose a different way entirely. we then think they are hard hearted and don't care when in fact they probably do care but don't act as instinctively as we do. maybe you were harsh. maybe he was trying to get his head around it and not knowing how to react. phone him and find out. give him a chance to redeem himself. good luck
2006-07-25 07:24:01 · answer #10 · answered by stingub40 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋