My husband is good and nice caring person, he loves me a lot. But there is only one problem with him, he does not understand my physical needs, or i should say he is not interested in sex, no matter how much i take intiative and create the spark. There is no chemistry at all between us. He loves mastrubating but not having sex with me, Please some one help me. How can a man live without having sex for 50 days. when ur wife is just beside u??
2006-07-25 00:10:07 · 29 answers · asked by cc20 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My suggestion to you is to ask him what's up and why? Ask him why he doesn't want to have sex with you and why? Ask him is there anything you can do to make him want to have sex with you? Ask him if he is upset about something...and see why he doesn't want to have sex with you. Normally men, jump at the chance to have sex with a woman...but if your husband isn't then maybe he has some issues he needs to discuss with you...in the meantime I recommed you buy a vibrator to keep yourself happy...because woman have the right and need to achieve orgasm just as much as any guy does.
2006-07-25 00:15:44 · answer #1 · answered by monavyas15 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I actually had this same problem with my husband at one time. And I thought about all the things that others have written here. In my case none of them were true, only that my husband had been taught not to have sex before he was married and so he would masturbate. When we got married he continued this, we had sex but alot of the time he wasnt interested. I continuously told him how it hurt me and I was very honest with him even if i thought what i was saying was hurtful toward him, because he needed to know how i felt. I would also turn away from him and not involve myself in his actions at all. Im not sure if you are trying to intice him and then he starts masturbating but if this is the case.....Turn Away! If he doesnt get the point after you telling him and turning away from him in bed.....then the rest of these accusations may be right. But if he's the caring, loving person you say he is ....he should care how his actions make you feel. I hope this helps you.
2006-07-25 00:30:52 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all how old is he? Some mean reach an age where sex is not important to them. Have you talked about the problem directly to him? Men can go alot longer without sex the older they get. Talk to him, this could be a health problem with him too, is he on any medication, some make sex drive almost nothing.
2006-07-25 01:31:40 · answer #3 · answered by stacysally 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not know but I have experienced it from the other end with my past wife.
Something has broken down. He is willing to say why he does not want to have sex with you? Is he having some type of physical problems so he takes care of himself to feel good that he can instead of risking the fall out of failure with you? Is your realtionship hurting in any other way that you know of? Find out if there's something to work through.
An emotional connection for men is very important even thogh not much is said. Some men do get stuck here and get trapped in a cycle that never ends. Creating more frustration and tension without the right release. To only masturbate will eventually cause more problems.
Can you focus on his emotional needs and seek some help? This may be bigger than both of you can handle alone. The issue may not be in the sexual area but shows up their. Is there too much stress with job or children? Failure in the workplace and it can go on.
I truly hope you both can find that bliss of making love again in getting reconnected. It's a wonderful thing that both need. Sometimes there are times of up and down. I just sense that you do not want it to get out of hand. Your sense of security and love can be threathened as well which means you could be pressing in many areas as well.
I hope soon that it will be well for you and your husband.
2006-07-25 00:25:48 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A MAN cant resist it for 5 days 50 is toooooooomuch. Is he like this since always or has there been any chnage recently or something? I think it would best to Talk to him and share your feelings and resolve the issue.
Otherwise purchase a Vibrator, Please dont mind, i said that coz i would ask you to look for it with some one else. I hope you would understand.
Take care,
Tahnx
2006-07-25 00:20:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi CV,
Have you openly and sincerely discussed this issue with your husband? Try finding out if he has any sociological problem that needs a professional help.
Also find out if you have any body odor that turns him off in bed. If not, work on getting him desire your body out of bed. Cos' if he desires your body out of bed, he will certainly not be able to resist you in bed.
Above all, get close to Mr. JESUS. You really need him here.
2006-07-25 00:39:04 · answer #6 · answered by "Whales" 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Autoeroticism is the practice of fulfilling one's own sexual needs without a partner. The most common form of autoeroticism is masturbation. It's a psychological disorder. He may get help from a psychologist but I am not sure.
2006-07-25 00:29:09 · answer #7 · answered by Ajeesh Kumar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's terribly sad. Maybe sex isn't the problem. Maybe he has different worries. You really need to talk to him about this, away from the bedroom. Have a conversation about it in the lounge whilst you're both fully clothed. He's more likely to tell you the truth because he won't feel so vulnerable. Be prepared and tell him that you are prepared to hear things that you may not like. honesty is the only way forward.
Be preapred to accept that intercourse is not his number one thing. You might need to masturbate him to get him going rather than have sex.
2006-07-25 00:16:12 · answer #8 · answered by Fluorescent 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-02 23:07:52 · answer #9 · answered by powelson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first let me tell you im sorry to hear that. but sometimes things like this happen. ive read some of othr peoples opinion and i think you should put all those thoughts to test. you need to find out why? first and let me tell you maybe he has some sexual prefrences let say hes not gay but ive known men who likes their *** licked and at first i was worried! but to my knowledge its just comes down to one thing have an open mind and tell him you have the right to know. god knows if you are really wasting your time. and if he dont answer seek marrige counseling!!! good luck
2006-07-25 00:54:48 · answer #10 · answered by luby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband is not interested in sex,either.He thinks of sex as a bad thing,because he feels that sex destroys relationships.I agree with him in a way.What you have to do is have him satisfy you and you not worry about him getting satisfy.Good Luck.
2006-07-25 00:29:20 · answer #11 · answered by Sander 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋