I wanted to get everyones opinion on what a few things were that every couple should know about each other before getting married. Or even things that married people don't know but wish their spouse did know.These can be anything. How to handle the budget, kids, or even sexual things. Such as are you happy with your sex life, what would you change? All sorts of stuff. Things that would bring you closer together, and that are important to know about each other. Give me your best!
2006-07-25 00:04:33 · 9 answers · asked by The Girl Next Door 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
How many kids (if any)? When? (as in soon or not for years and years)
How will we manage our money?(joint account, separate accounts, or both?)
Who will be responsible for chores? (joint, or just one person)
How will we do holidays? (whose parents for Christmas, for example)
(If there are kids) Will someone stay home from work with the kids if possible? Who?
Do you agree on a similar style of parenting?
You don't necessarily have to have an exact answer to all of that ahead of time, but it's good to at least throw it out into discussion so that you're sure there are no major discrepancies, such as a husband expecting a wife to quit her job and stay home with the kids forever and do all the housework when that's not what the wife has in mind. Hope some of that helps.
2006-07-25 03:45:10 · answer #1 · answered by caitlinerika 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They should agree on religion (Even if it's not a big issue now, it very likely will be an issue after the couple has children.) They should agree on a budget. They should agree on how many children they want - at least there shouldn't be a huge discrepancy. I mean he shouldn't want 5 and she not want any. They should know the other's family. There are probably a lot of other things but these are the first that came to mind.
2006-07-25 00:14:24 · answer #2 · answered by cldb730 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before getting married I think there is many aspects that you need to look at. To begin:
What habits do they have?
How do they act?
Do they want kids?
Who will be in charge of the money?
What are their opinions on important issues?
Religion? Will you guys be able to compromise?
Before my husband and I got married we took a test through the Catholic church to find out how well we knew each other and how good we would get along. We did very well and I think that it was really good for us to take and then discuss with the priest afterwards to discuss our answers and what happened.
2006-07-25 00:23:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Finances! Make sure you are both on the same page when it comes to how money will be saved or spent, should you have a joint account, each their own account, who should pay which bills, , how money will be spent, are you a debt lover, or a pay as you go type of person, do you have a balance owing on your credit card at the end of every month, and does your spouse like to pay off dept as it is incured.. Money is one of the worst things that people fight about when they get married!! Be aware!
2006-07-25 01:28:53 · answer #4 · answered by noahsmom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a million. what he sees interior the destiny for you the two and himself. 2. his objectives and objectives in existence. 3. what he feels approximately having infants? 4. could he prefer to stay with mom and dad or what type of family individuals individuals he has (very close or merely hi, hi). 5. his activity's nature and the quantity of time and interest he may well be waiting to grant you. 6. what are his financial objectives, (while asked such questions usually human beings wont take it user-friendly.) in the past you ask all the questions verify you tell him that's to no longer offend him yet to your information to make an excellent determination so as that no person regrets if interior the destiny. see how your priorities experience with the single you intend to marry, if a minimum of 80 5% suits, then you definately will make a effective couple. all this provide you an excellent floor to work out how your destiny would be with this individual, yet each and every dating desires lots attempt to enhance and prevail. good success.
2016-11-02 23:07:42 · answer #5 · answered by powelson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should definetly discuss kids. How many do you want to have, and how you will discipline them.
Also ask about the family; is there mental illness in the immediate family (very very important) mental illness can be passed down through children so this is a MUST!! I have a cousin who got involved with a dude whose mother and sister were schizphrenic...slowly he became schizo too and she has 4 children with him and sadly at about 21 her oldest son developed it as well. Her life has been hell and she worries about her other 3 children.
2006-07-25 00:23:26 · answer #6 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
none of that stuff matters, it will come along with your marriage, the bind that will keep you together is friendship, yes friendship when the kids are gone and the bills are payed off and your friends are no longer close to you and you are both old and sex is no longer in the picture and the kissy kissy love disapears you have to have friendship someone you can spend the rest of your life in deep conversations with cause one day it will come to that so make sure the peson you choose is your best friend above all else someone you can talk to about anything. i mean anything and they will not judge you but love you for the person you are good luck
2006-07-25 00:28:41 · answer #7 · answered by sweetie1995 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Their past. Not how many partners. Is there "anything" in their past that would come back on the both of you? Is there anything that could potentially come up that would destroy the both of us once we are married? Honesty and no secrets. Lay it all out on the table. Remember, once things are laid out, you can't take them back. You will need total respect for your relationship-not hold anything over their head. Once you know, either deal with it and let it bring you closer or move on.
2006-07-25 00:32:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
pay your bills first, look into spouses needs first then take care of your own, Dont find fault in spouses family, Agree on how to handle discipline of kids and live up to it.
Good Luck to you and God Bless!!
2006-07-25 00:19:32 · answer #9 · answered by msqtech 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋