My boyfriend and i have always had a great sex life and i try to have sex as often as i can but he has recently told me that he just feels i'm using him for sex. He is amazing in bed and i am always mad for sex and am always trying it on with him. Shold i lay off?? I can't control myself around him. Need sex. What to do...
2006-07-24 23:59:34 · 25 answers · asked by toots 3 in Health ➔ Women's Health
speak to him about it and explain your side!! If that doesn´t work ask him the real reason he´s not up for it - if you´re not happy with his reasons ..... move on!! Life is too short!
2006-07-25 00:05:11 · answer #1 · answered by roxy 3 · 2⤊ 3⤋
It's never good to use someone, whatever the reason. Who says you can't still get it on even if he knows that's all you want (although you weren't clear whether that's what you think or not?). I think if you really do just want sex and nothing else from him, then you really should let him know that (not necessarily directly, but if you're clever and subtle you can make it clear then at least he has the choice to go along with it or not, and you won't feel like a cruel bi*ch) or move on and get with someone who also just wants sex (snag there is you could fall in love and then you'd be in the same position as your current boyfriend, oh the irony). Maybe you need to think a bit more whether he has anything else of value apart from his winkie.
2006-07-25 00:04:22 · answer #2 · answered by edsephiroth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
too much of a "good thing" isn't always a good thing and that includes sex. You both need to find a happy medium in the bedroom, it's not just yourself that you have to consider. I was watching a show on cable called sex inspectors and this couple went through exactly what you're describing. The guy loved sex, but his gf was really aggressive and wanted it all the time. he got to the point where he felt he had to perform, like it was a duty and that took the desire out of it. it's great for a guy to have his woman take charge, but sometimes he wants to be in control and maybe your need for sex has taken some of that from your relationship. Just a thought. Bottom line - you both need to talk about it :-)
2006-07-25 00:26:55 · answer #3 · answered by mangosmoothie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a common concept that all men are 'gagging for it', some men just dont have a high sex drive and its possible your boyf knows you think hes good in bed and is worried thats all you love about him? How would you feel if you thought he thought your only talents were in bed? Lay off a bit and start appreciating other things you can do together instead, maybe when he feels less insecure he will be more up for sex.
2006-07-25 02:17:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wich my chic was always up 4 it 2 ! Nothin wrong in been used 4 sex if u a man , good job u not plannin 2 fool around outside ur relationship , what s the matter with him ???
2006-07-25 00:07:51 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should try doing things that dont involve sex, spend time with him, get to know him. this could be a test to see if you love him or you love what he can do in bed. if hes so great at it, then he has probably had lots and lots of practice at it, and most likely he has been used for sex before. so you should really ask yourself 'if he stoped having sex with me would i break up with him?'
2006-07-25 00:17:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO I USE HIM??? typical woman thinking. even the bible portrayed woman as an evil being for such reason's i think....
please he is u r boy friend , probably in love with u too.....
HE IS NOT A DILDO...
he has feelings , try to appreciate that. listen once in a while to him. take care of him.
if u cant do all this, just dump him and get a dildo....u can have all the sex u ever wanted then...no questions asked
2006-07-25 00:06:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I find it surprising cause men love it, but maybe he has strong feelings for you and might worry that if your sex drive is so high that when he is not around you will get on someone else, just make sure he knows you like him for him and not just for the sex
2006-07-25 00:03:31 · answer #8 · answered by Emmie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi my name is abhishek i got ur problem it very comman its realy hard for a man to thing like this that he do not to have sex they r dog n alwys ready to have sex . if he is saying like this there must be something wrong u should ask hime why he is behaving in such a way then only u will come to no whts the main probleam n u should to talk to hime abt this i am a male to so i can say this but its real unknown sistution so dont worry everthing will be fine u just take care n let me no n then only i let u no wht realy he is behaving in such a way n r not using hime in very coman itshuman desire take care
2006-07-25 00:10:48 · answer #9 · answered by ABHISHEK D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get emotionally attached to him so that he feels you need him for many more things than just only sex. Love him, listen to his problems what all he want to share with you and then even if you have sex 20 times a day , he won't feel you are using him but loving him.
2006-07-25 00:03:42 · answer #10 · answered by aarzooji a 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are too thing you can do lay him off if you don't like him.
OR
Keep it going if he is good to have sex with. I am sure he wants sex as badly as you after all he is male species.
2006-07-25 00:10:43 · answer #11 · answered by Nick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋