Here's the problem:
On the 18th of august, my friend as well as my aunt from U.S. are coming to see me in bangkok. Both of them, also, made plans to go to the beach during the weekend. I haven't seen both of them for a really long time. Who should i go meet? i can't meet both of them or ask both of them to go to the same beach for some reason.
If i don't go to the beach with aunt, mom and cousins, they all will be very angry with me and all of them are the sensitive kind. If they find out that i went to the beach with my bf to see my friend while my aunt is here, i'll be a death meat.
and if i don't go with my friend( a friend of my boyfriend, who became my friend), my boyfriend will be mad at me as we made this plan to hang out together like a long time back. My boyfriend is also the sensitive kind.
Wat should i do. Urgent advice needed
2006-07-24 23:23:44 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Is there any way you can divide this time up? Both are important to you. At first, I thought maybe you should take your boyfriend to the family gathering...but I gather they don't approve of him...but I'm thinking that maybe you should grit your teeth and do it...because I suspect they won't be rude to him...and you'll be in trouble later....but they love you...and will get past it eventually. Yes...I think it might be your only solution. Try to see the friend before the family thing...explain your problem...and I suspect the friend will understand. The only other possibility is to consider which would be harder for you...your family's disappointment...or your boyfriend's? This will give you an answer. Why does it always happen this way? Good Luck!
2006-07-24 23:34:15 · answer #1 · answered by riverhawthorne 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you haven't seen your family for a very long time and they are coming from abroad then you should put them first. This is something for you too so your boyfriend and friend should understand this. They are both there in Bangkok ( I assume) so you can see them anytime at another time. If your boyfriend doesn't understand this, he is being very selfish and it will in fact be an eye opener for your future relationship with him.
2006-07-24 23:31:01 · answer #2 · answered by VelvetRose 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must do what you're heart wants you to do. If it's a no win situation go to beach with one and if your lucky the next day you can go to the beach with the other. Talk to the people involved and see if you can come up with a solution.
2006-07-24 23:28:59 · answer #3 · answered by rastus7742 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your bf really and truly cares for you and loves you then he will understand how much your family means to you. Or, maybe you could spend time with your family and your bf spend time with his friend. Just suggestions. I wish you the best.
2006-07-24 23:32:07 · answer #4 · answered by Roller Coaster Enthusiast 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would go with the family they will talk more and let you know how they feel more. Your BF will have to understand that your family is important to and he is also but if they can't get along then ??? Something will have to give.
2006-07-24 23:30:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If ur bf is understanding and caring, he will understand ur problem and let u go with ur aunt.. So talk to him...
2006-07-24 23:28:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
cant you combine the whole thing.Or set everyone up for different times of the day.I'm sure it'll work. I hate dilemmas.
2006-07-24 23:34:29 · answer #7 · answered by Je♥n 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
family first
2006-07-24 23:31:33 · answer #8 · answered by patrick c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
set your priorities right gal n see what is more imp?
2006-07-24 23:25:49 · answer #9 · answered by country_girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
put family first.
2006-07-24 23:25:11 · answer #10 · answered by sahel578 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋