i mean when you with someone he says he loves you but still cheats on you and in the end tries to make you feel secure about yourself again. how canpaople do that to threir surposing loved one. you fall inlove with the person and not what he /she can offer you. you change who you are only because you think that special person is worh it, an not for something you can't be.
2006-07-24 23:19:47 · 9 answers · asked by smiley 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Some people try to diminish their own guilt by trying to "fix" the feelings of someone they cheated on. Cheating is truly, NOT YOUR FAULT. If the cheating partner had any personal integrity of character, that person would be honest and end the current relationship cleanly before seeing someone else and avoid cheating on their mate. The cheater's character, not the mate, is the real issue when someone lies and cheats in relationships. Cheaters should be avoided like the plague.
2006-07-24 23:29:46 · answer #1 · answered by Jess4rsake 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your question is a little hard to understand. If you are saying you tried to change who you are so someone would love you, I think you have answered yourself with the statement of you can't be "something you can't be." In a roundabout way, you are taking/not taking the blame for this person cheating on you. The bottom line, you did not make this person cheat on you. Don't try to fog up your brain trying to make EXCUSES for someone cheating on you, which is what you are trying to do. No one except the person who cheated on you made the choice to cheat on you. YOU did not have anything to do with that person's decision. And, of course, "it's not your fault". Were you there when he was screwing someone else? Did you give him your permission to do that? If not, please see that this person is manipulating your love and emotions so that he can have his cake and eat it, too, (have you and screw other women, too - and make you feel that it is somehow your fault). If you don't get strong, you will only get a broken heart. Women are way too nice and forgiving. WALK AWAY!!!
2006-07-25 06:43:21 · answer #2 · answered by 420Linda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because it isn't about you, its about them and their immaturity and lack of impulse control and their lack of character, its not about the person they are with at all. If you are changing who you are to be with someone that is where you are making the mistake. You should be with someone who loves and appreciates you for who you are already.
2006-07-25 06:25:18 · answer #3 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because it isn't your fault at all, It is his fault for being a big self- obsessed jerk. The second your guy cheats on you, that's the second he loses you.
2006-07-25 06:24:58 · answer #4 · answered by Jenni 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because my (friend*), he just wants you to feel good because he's going to leave you and...he recognizes the fact that he made a mistake, in conclusion, he wants out---and it has to be real quick.
2006-07-25 06:22:45 · answer #5 · answered by tshingk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what are you doing with him still?
just get away and move on...........some people are like this,and how much ever the promise to change and stuff trust me they never do and it'll just keeping on incresing and at the same time your pain will keep increasing too!!
2006-07-25 06:30:05 · answer #6 · answered by country_girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They don't really love you they just want you to keep having sex with them because they like have sex with multiple people.
2006-07-25 06:21:35 · answer #7 · answered by tenaciousd 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
better have dumped the idiot
2006-07-25 06:21:16 · answer #8 · answered by Schmitz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because he was horny
2006-07-25 06:22:37 · answer #9 · answered by spookydakat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋