It is one of those situations without solutions. I want more sex, she hates it, we don't get any. Just once in 2 months or so and that only to make me feel better. She does not enjoy it and tries not to get any. We talked about it a million times. She just thinks sex is not important. But i would like my partner to find me attractive, like in the first days. This is killing my self confidence and I told her already. She loves me but she never wants me. She does not want to solve this by experimenting or trying anything new, neither to look for therapy. She wants us to stay like this. Like kissing girlfriends or as I call it (and she hates it), simple roommates. Anybody had a similar experience and want to tell me how you got through it?
2006-07-24 22:48:27 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
a lot of my friends are lesbians and i can tell you that this isn't a good sign...she may be saying that its just because she doesn't think its important, but what she might be saying is that she's not really into you anymore...but without being harsh...or she could have been repressing something from her past and it has caught up to her...and saying no to therapy could be a sign that she isn't comfortable talking about it with anyone...unfortunately for you, there's nothing you can do except be there for her...as a friend...let her know how much you care about her and you want her to be happy whether its as friends or as girlfriends...
2006-07-24 22:59:01 · answer #1 · answered by acidpluto 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
She loves you alright but may be she does not want to be a lesbian anymore....? Did you find out if she has some health problem which could be worrying her. If she has found another partner, feel free and let her go. Time will heal the rift and you can always find a new one. I believe she is going thru' some transition and you have to give her time and space to get over with this lack of interest in sex.
2006-07-25 06:03:52 · answer #2 · answered by yuvan53 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your girlfriend does not wish to do anything about the problem, then either she does not see this as a problem or she doesn't care if it is a problem.
It's hard to imagine that the first choice is possible, given your discussion about it. We'll have to assume the second choice is true. Either she's no longer interested in sex, generally speaking, or she's no longer interested in you.
At some point, you have to decide if that is something you can tolerate or something that will kill your relationship. If you can live with it, then you need to figure out what to do about your own sexual needs (figuring out ways to pleasure yourself, involving others, etc.). If you can't live with this, then you need to move on.
I wish you the best and hope your GF can open up more about the specifics.
2006-07-25 06:13:44 · answer #3 · answered by frostedflake25 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a sad story, I guess things never stand still, even people change and move forward, have you thought that maybe your girlfriend is not lesbian, do you think there's a possibility that she may be bi-sexual or even heterosexual ?
I do hope that you can get to bottom of the problem, although I am sure that she isn't intending to cause you pain but she must try to understand that you have sexual needs ( like most people ).
I wish the 2 of you all the very best .
2006-07-25 10:01:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might ask her to see a doctor to see if it's hormonal. If she she wont try to change, you have to make a decision, her or sex with a new partner. Good luck.
Tammi Dee
2006-07-25 08:47:38 · answer #5 · answered by tammidee10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a group on the web that may be of some help to you both, check out Asexuality.org
2006-07-25 05:56:11 · answer #6 · answered by Testika Filch Milquetoast 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hmm..this may sound stupid, but maybe she just really likes you..your company..etc, but not as "gay" as she has led you to believe?...If she is not giving you everything you need then thats not a good relationship.
2006-07-25 10:20:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
She hates girls for 1 and 2 how can girls have sex with each other?
2006-07-25 09:18:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋
I don't think there is a cure for lesbian bed death.
2006-07-25 10:03:08 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Give me an hour with her, I WILL change her mind!
2006-07-25 11:53:34 · answer #10 · answered by J. T. N 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋