How can I get rid of loneliness?

Answer 1

The truth is you cannot get rid of loneliness.

It's an experience I think that everyone has sooner or later and some people feel it more often than other people depending on their life situation.

However, you can understand that loneliness can be a temporary feeling - for example, now you feel lonely because say it's the middle of the night, you can't sleep, you wish you could call someone, but really it's too late to disturb anyone with just these feelings of loneliness (it's not an emergency - just this feeling). Then you wake up, go to work, and talk with people and the feeling goes away.

Or you can feel lonely because you feel that no one understands what you are going through and there is no one you can really talk to about your situation. This can pass too - maybe you decide to take a chance and try anyway to talk to someone about what you are going through or even call a professional, crisis line, etc.

Or there really is no one to talk to and you write about it, just to have a release and a catharsis. Or you do some other activity which provides release or takes your mind off it - reading, movies, TV, going for a walk, exercise, any hobby or interest you may have that requires concentration or makes you feel better.

The main point I am trying to make is that it is not a matter of getting rid of loneliness, but more a way to learn to cope with it - it's the human condition and honestly, there is no escape from it, just learning to deal with it.

I feel I am an expert on this subject because I have been lonely all my life and my loneliness comes and goes. It's true some people are more lonely than others - but everyone goes through it, and I believe, people who say they are never lonely are lying to themselves. It's like one of the last taboos to admit that you are lonely, but I like breaking taboos.

I ADMIT TO EVERYONE I AM LONELY.

Answer 2

Join a Loneliness Club.

Answer 3

if you're lonely, you are probably spending a lot of time by yourself. That can be caused by a lot of things like shyness, low-self esteem or you may be depressed. You need to get out more and start living. When you become more active, than you get exposed to more people, thus a good way to make friends. If there are certain activities you like, join a club or the gym. you don't want your computer, to be your best friend. Being a recluse, will only add to your loneliness, so you have to start making a change. if you're an animal lover, get a dog. you'll have to take him for a walk everyday and that in itself, will get you out of the house - which is a great start.

Answer 4

Loneliness is something I didn't know about until I ended a relationship that left my heart ripped wide open. Up until that point; I derived satisfaction from many different sources...and I really had to work hard to create my alone time. It helped me to maintain my balance. My alone time was never lonely...but afterward, after the break-up...I felt a real void...and I was forced to fill it with other things that mattered to me. It took me some time to get there...but I did. I now believe I was supposed to feel it; so I could understand what it was. I guess my message to you is...to feel lonely is very hard...and you could be grieving over a broken relationship...but it does get better in time...and it somehow makes you a much better person...you'll get through it. I have felt lonely in crowded rooms...so people are not part of the equation...it is more of a sense of Love. Love seems to keep us more connected somehow.

Answer 5

Sorry if I sound too philosophical, but loneliness is part of every human's existential condition.We are all "trapped within our own skin/minds/bodies", so to speak.

Accept this, and accept that everyone else, despite appearances, feels the same inside, as you do. Then you can begin to make friends, find lovers, etc.

Answer 6

Get out and get involved. If you don't have friends, get out and make some. Join a local club, like the Kiwanis or some other group, volunteer for good causes, like Habitat for Humanity or the Boys and Girls Clubs. Even when you're not doing these, find a hobby. Hit the library and find something you would love to do, then throw yourself into it.

Answer 7

I accept my occasional "loneliness" and my alone time as a refuge. I can reflect on my past, present, and future: my plans for today and tomorrow.

If you have a feeling of "loneliness" all the time, you may need professional help.

Answer 8

It's actually a matter of having a little faith in yourself and getting yourself "OUT THERE". Now you don't have to "Hook Up" with anyone or meet people on a one on one basis. You could get yourself involved in a group situation (like volunteering on a group project, attend and help out on a picnic, etc.)

Often, a "Lonely" person just doesn't have enough interaction. They often kind of blend into the background and never gets recognized for accomplishments or for who they are. Don't do this to yourself. Just do your "Fair Share" of contributing to yourself and the people you are with. You don't have to be in the spotlight all the time. But you will be expected to step up from "time to time" and make a good appearance.

I would start of with writing a list of cool stuff that you can do with other people. You can join an active club at school. If you are out of school, you can join a club or organization (like Toastmasters International, the PTA, learn a hobby/craft/activity [like dancing]).

The main thing is take things a step at a time. (Hey, you had to crawl before you could walk. You must learn to walk before you can run well.) It just important that you START (and FINISH) your objective.

Anything worth having is worth working for. Be good to yourself, feel good about yourself, and get out there. You will be surrounded by cool friends in no time!

Answer 9

Quit focusing on loneliness & on superficial means of overcoming it.
It helps to make oneself useful to others... "it is in giving that we receive.."

Can't beat it by merely trying to escape from it. At times, the reverse works .... spend time alone in nature, meditate, become comfortable & content with yourself and "within" urself.

Most importantly... PRAY !


" Truly in the heart there is a void & a sadness that cannot be removed except by knowing God and being true to Him. And in it, there is an emptiness that cannot be filled except with love for
Him and rememberance of Him. And if you were given all of this world and everything in it, it would not fill this emptiness. " (anonymous)

Answer 10

you can't be happy if you harbor grudges, so put them away.. get rid of them! happiness is a choice, you have to choose to be happy.. no matter what your circumstances are.. if you fail to do so, loneliness will automatically take over.