My kids seem happy about this, but i know the kids dad will kick off if we go ahead with it, even though he does'nt bother with the kids what should i do?
2006-07-24 22:41:23 · 9 answers · asked by trudi w 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i think its a wonderful thing that your new hubby wants to do. am sure u are very proud of him & of how u have brought up your children that your hubby wants to adopt another man's kids, its quite unusual.
u should take a decision taking everything into consideration, talk to people who are close to u, know both your hubby & kids. ultimately the choise is yours, no matter what others say.
am happy for u :)
2006-07-24 22:46:45 · answer #1 · answered by mimis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am an adoptive parent and a step-parent. Here is all I know about step-parent adoption.
State laws on stepparent adoptions vary. Most States have a streamlined process for adoptions by stepparents whereby the judge hearing the adoption petition has the ability to dispense with the requirement in State laws for an adoption home study. Some States, however, will not approve a stepparent adoption unless the custodial parent has been married to the stepparent for 1 year or longer.
When a stepparent wishes to adopt a stepchild, the child's parents (the stepparent's spouse and the noncustodial or absent parent) are usually both required to consent to that adoption. In consenting to an adoption, the noncustodial parent relinquishes all parental rights and responsibilities, including child support. If the noncustodial parent objects to the proposed adoption and refuses to consent to it, State laws may prevent the adoption from proceeding.
Some State adoption laws specify special circumstances under which the noncustodial parent's consent is not required. Other States have made special provisions in their adoption laws to allow stepparent adoptions to occur, even over the objections of the noncustodial parent, in cases where the noncustodial parent has failed to maintain communication with the child for a specified period of time.
Here's a link to more info about stepparent adoption
http://naic.acf.hhs.gov/pubs/f_step.cfm
Here is a link to search statutes by state for issues related to child adoption. Results will provide summaries of State statutes (and full text of laws, in some cases).
http://naic.acf.hhs.gov/general/legal/statutes/search/index.cfm
Best wishes and God bless
2006-07-24 23:38:47 · answer #2 · answered by cstoa10 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anyone can be a father, but it takes a real man to be a dad!! Your husband will be a wonderful daddy !!
Have patience, and let the biological father know your intentions, and if he protests, well you will have to live with it, just let you husband call your kids his, and let the kids call him daddy, and live happily ever after... Really , what's in a name....
2006-07-25 01:09:56 · answer #3 · answered by noahsmom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let the ****** kick off!any scumbag that doesnt take care and love his own children,doesnt deserve to have his feelings (if he has any) considered.let the good guy adopt the kids they deserve a real dad,and so do you.good luck.
2006-07-24 22:48:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well its a good idea 2 adopt... it helps sumone w no parents 2 grow up rite... bt if he dnt bother w da other ones.. then u guys should really have a tlk about it
2006-07-24 23:11:37 · answer #5 · answered by TraVieZa_420 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't have to officially be their "father" in order to be their dad. Just call him their dad, and eventually you'll start thinking so. It would be cruel to take the dad's children away from him!
2017-03-02 16:09:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He can't adopt them without the father agreeing to it.
2006-07-24 22:48:45 · answer #7 · answered by heidielizabeth69 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so happy for you. I would let him if it's something you really want. I say go for it.
2006-07-25 01:07:11 · answer #8 · answered by Beth 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do it.. if you think its best for your kids.
children naturally adopt to things.. so even if they dont get along or whatever, they eventually will have to.
2006-07-24 22:45:06 · answer #9 · answered by somethingsovague 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋