i have tried many ways like buying her ahouse at adistance .i had many dialoges but no different.i do wat i can to my best but no change.they want me to separete from my wife but am ready for that because i dont see any reason for that please give me advice me .
2006-07-24 22:22:22 · 14 answers · asked by mandingo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
you need to have a SERIOUS talk with your family....be open and honest with them. if they love you then they need to understand that you feel torn or atleast tell them to back off....the choice is yours and if you really love her you need to support her...your family will come around sooner or later....just make them realize how great she is and that she makes you happy
2006-07-24 22:29:09 · answer #1 · answered by lovely 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My sympathies to you! I've seen too many marriages fall apart because of this. Your parents and siblings MUST have a reason for hating your wife. Maybe they know something about her that you don't? Her past? Whatever it is, they can hate her for all they want but they have no right to tell you to leave your wife. If you married her, you are already accepting her for what she is, her past included. I think you have done enough to make peace. It's about time you put your foot down and tell them off. You don't have to leave...just avoid them for a while. And if they love you enough, they'll come to their senses and learn to accept your wife. In the meantime, your wife will need your love and support even more now.
2006-07-24 22:57:49 · answer #2 · answered by butterfly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Choose your wife. If you loved this woman enough to marry her, on the day your married her, you left your parents and she became #1 in your life. I would say for now if you want to visit your family, do it alone until they can accept that they have no right to say anything against her. I feel sorry for your wife being treated this way, and I hope you make sure she knows she comes first with you. If you don't protect her feelings from being hurt by them, she may stop loving you.
2006-07-24 22:39:05 · answer #3 · answered by 420Linda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you know the reason why they hate her?Whatever reason if you really love her,this should not change things between self and wife.If you married her because of love then you have no business to bother about your parents' and siblings' hatred towards your wife.Just stick to her and one day maybe they will find out they are fighting a loosing battle.However try to relate well with them if only they are not interfering with your life.All the best.
2006-07-24 23:17:00 · answer #4 · answered by hannah n 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be frank with them, tell them THIS IS MY WIFE AND NOTHING IS GOING TO CHANGE. You have to be firm, and stick with the situation you choose, then finally they may get to respect you for the desision you made.
At the end of the day you will live with your wife, not your mom and dad, and they will not be there when you are old. Be the man that you are and stop worrying about what others think about your relationship, at the end of the day you life must be happy, and your family have had their life, It is now your turn...
2006-07-24 22:31:58 · answer #5 · answered by kirsun10 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is one way in which you can help the situation which works a charm- you invite EVERYBODY who has a problem with your wife, and you sit them all down to have a chat, and you ask what they have against her, and if its something really fickle and stupid, go crazy, talk about now you've met someone you want to spend your life with, and if they want nothing to do with her (which is clear) then they obviously want nothing to do with you either, so tell them to get their act straight, and if they cant, they are going to have to accept that you are prepared to move away and cut contact (that line usually scares the **** out of them!) but seriously, mate. If they had any sense, they would apologise. Hope it goes alright, mate.
2006-07-24 22:57:35 · answer #6 · answered by shadowrunneruk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my family were the same about my partner a couple of weeks back so I said at the end of the day I am the one who loves and lives with him and if you do not like it do not come over .Tell them it is your life and if they do not want to see you sad and depressed then they should all grow up and accept she is a part of your life and she aint going anywhere so they should get used to it if they say they cant then I wud not bother with them and let them come running when they are ready you and your wife are your family now good luck
2006-07-24 22:30:36 · answer #7 · answered by stephy200125 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have a good family.don't separate with your wife.just check your wife past that she got affect from any thing kind of incident.any thing is there help your wife to bring back her normal.to any problem reason was there try to find out the reason and solved it.don't divorce your wife.siblings also can have a wrong.find the basic reason for all.every thing will be solved
2006-07-24 23:00:26 · answer #8 · answered by moon walker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have been married a family who felt the same way has your family has about your wife. i was the one my ex hubby's family hated, i dont know why. I neaver did anything to them. if anything he was the one abuseing me. But also have you asked them why they hate her so much. My hubby wouldnt ask,which was one of the things that put a strain on our marriage,has well as the abuse. I bet its very stressful for your wife,i know it was for me. even coursed rows aswell.
2006-07-24 22:29:21 · answer #9 · answered by lovableleachy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
families eh !! just try enjoy your life with your wife, i feel sorry for you when you have kids, as the kids will suffer, your parents might think twice then, don't be bullied anymore, you can choose your friends but your stuck with family, ignore them an see how they like it xx
2006-07-24 22:40:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋