I already have a fiance A. But i was having an affair with my collegue B. Until today, there's still no one know our relationship. I love both of them. B know that i'm engage and lived with my fiance. As for A, he don't know about this affair. Both of them love and care for me and i can't bear to leave anyone of them. B never give me any pressure. He's protect me every now and then. He even scared that i will get hurt. He will not call me or sms me when i'm at home as he know that i'm inconvenient. I don't wish to end this relationship. What's your opinion? Am i wrong to love both of them.
2006-07-24 21:09:14 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
That why I always said this world is unfair ? Why ? if a man can have affairs, why not a woman ? My suggestion to your question is that you must feel happy then you carry on. Otherwise, please chose one not two. My advice is be very, very careful with this relationship. Keep this secret yourself and never let anyone know regardless how close to you. Take care and good luck.
2006-07-28 02:51:58 · answer #1 · answered by James Louis 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If you care about any of the two, you'll end at least one. Your finace has made a promise to marry and love you forever, and yet you haven't committed yourself to him. If you wanted to marry him and be with him, you wouldn't need another guy in your life. There must be something your fiance must be lacking since you're looking for it outside the relationship. I can't say you're wrong for loving both, I don't know how that feels, but it's obvious neither is the one for you. When a person is the one for you, you'll never even think about looking at anyone else. If you love both it's because they both have qualities you want in your partner. Please don't marry him. You're unsure of what you want and you're just going to regret doing so down the line. As for the man you're having an affair with, are you the only one he's seeing? Or does he have other partners? You need to consider the fact that if he doesn't pressure you to end your engagement it's because he sees it as something casual. He might not want a relationship. If a man trully loves you, he's NOT going to be willing to share you, and this is exactly what your lover is doing, sharing you.
bottom line:
fiance = loves you
lover = likes you
you = what do YOU want?
2006-07-25 04:34:31 · answer #2 · answered by Journey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off it seems like you are too immature to get married if you are doing what you are doing. You are very selfish and cannot truely love your fiance if you have been cheating on her. You are putting her in a health risk and doing the worst thing and spouse could do to anther. I think the most benificial thing for you to do is stop the engagement (at least for the time being) and then tell her why. I think you should be w/B. You deserve eachother. She knows you are engaged and does not care about you and A and how she is hurting A. You are also hurting A and putting her a high risk. You should be w/B. A deserves much better then scum. Grow up and love someone else besides yourself!
2006-07-25 04:40:33 · answer #3 · answered by chill'n 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you get engaged in the 1st place when you know we human can fall in love again. If you control yourself well, you won't end up in this situation. You must not be greedy, wanting the best from this two guys. Decide who's qualities you need the most for now, today & tomorrow. What is love if he can't be there when you need him the most, can't protect you not provide you when you are married. If you think you like B, think wisely, tell you fiance the truth. Wthether he can take it or not - it will take time to cure. But if he discover it himself and you two happen to get married, it hurt him more because you never know if your fiance actually love you more than you actually love him.
2006-07-28 02:43:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, u r sooo wrong! u cant love men at d same time. let's say ur fiance is in d same situation, what wud u feel or do?
open ur eyes, girl. make ur decision now b4 it's too late...b4 u lose both of them.
2006-07-25 04:15:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's not fair to either of them! Cheating is WRONG! Just think about how you would feel if you walked in on your b/f (either one) and they were in bed with someone else...........
2006-07-25 04:17:34 · answer #6 · answered by MC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is short, enjoy whatever you have...
2006-07-25 04:21:19 · answer #7 · answered by Love69 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get ur grove on
2006-07-25 07:57:13 · answer #8 · answered by Humility 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋