I've been married for almost five years and everthing I seem to do is to cheat on her sence before we got married. I've cybersexed with other women and asked for photos of them, told them that i wasn't married or that I didn't get married because she was cheating on me ( but she wasn't) , also I joined a few dating sites....I know that i messed up...she wants to leave and get divorced.... why did I do this to her, and how can I fix this mess ?
2006-07-24 20:25:06 · 13 answers · asked by chi_cubs_lover 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you want to fix your relationship and she is agreeable, you are going to have to give up your addiction. You will have to find something else to do with your time like share it with your wife. You may have to rely on her support. It will probably be necessary for you to determine what exactly it is you are gaining from your behaviour. What need does it fulfill for you. That way you will be able to find something else, healthier for your marriage that can meet that need.
Good luck, It can be done
2006-07-24 20:30:54 · answer #1 · answered by Heathery Lane 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would divorce you too. If you've been doing this for five years it sounds like a character trait more than a mistake. I hope you don't have any kids. You are pretty selfish and mean to be honest. If you want to try to get her back go to therapy and some support groups meetings and stop what you are doing. It doesn't really sound like you should be married though. It sounds like you were not living the life of a married man and maybe that is best for you. Maybe you are not ready to settle down.
2006-07-25 03:53:13 · answer #2 · answered by chill'n 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
obviously something in your marriage was not working for you, you need to find out what was not working for you and then find a way to fix it. tell her the reason and tell her how you plan on fixing it and that you dont want her to leave that you have no exuse for what you did and that if you did not want her to stay you would not be trying to fix it in the first place. tell her what you decided to do to fix the problem and tell her that you need ther support and that you know it will take time for her to trust you again but that you will be working hard on building that trust, but that you cant do anything without her. tell her your sorry that you did those things, show her the proof if she needs to see it that you have no affiliations with any dating services or whatever. you have alot of work to do and the longer you put it off the less time you will have to convince her that she should stay, so if i were you i would get busy! good luck
2006-07-25 03:31:46 · answer #3 · answered by Blonds Rock 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK for starters you need to get into some kind of therapy for yourself, and also marriage consoling would be a good way to one help her and you fix your marriage, two for you to show her you really are sorry for what you did and that you are willing to get help to help you stop being a cheater, and that you want to be with her for the rest of your life.
2006-07-25 03:37:54 · answer #4 · answered by mspecangirl417 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there's just an ounce of decency in you, then you'll let her go. To get her to stay with you, considering that you're obviously lacking character and integrity, would be adding insult to injury. Haven't you done enough damage already?
2006-07-25 03:51:19 · answer #5 · answered by scubalady01 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u r a cyber freak u need to tell her u r sorryand explain to her u felt as if u had no cotrol of yourself tell how much u love her and stay away from the computer!
2006-07-25 03:29:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shes made up her mind about it, you cant stop her, let her go, you should of told her the truth. instead of hiding it, that isnt a marriage, if you hide things from one another, if u want her talk to her.
2006-07-25 03:34:44 · answer #7 · answered by ~*Jenny*~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
break ur comp and leave ur sites and the girls and tell her that u r sorry and try to make her feel that u r really sorry and that was not good of u?!!
2006-07-25 03:29:16 · answer #8 · answered by Ç}{ÃMÕ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
geeee, i broke my arm now how do i turn back time so that it didn't happen
its a good thing she is leaving you, maybe eventually you will learn how to treat people right
2006-07-25 03:31:45 · answer #9 · answered by zether 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should get a few test done you might be a sex addict!!! and you cant help yourself you just do it and wonder why later see a doctor
2006-07-25 04:41:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋