I'm married to a man who is not sexually attracted to me. I've never known ultimate passion with him from the start of our marriage(everyone I talked to says that at least during the first years of their marriage they were very sexually active, we've never been). I was a virgin bride with no other boyfriend except my husband at present. He on the other hand, was very sexually active with multiple girlfriends prior to our marriage. He also was and still is a very attractive man while I've always been a plain Jane. To my credit, I'm smart, friendly, loyal, a professional who actually earns more than my husband. He calls me buddy, but I have enough friends to last me a lifetime... I need a lover who can't get his hands off me... desires me, wants me.
I don't look anything like his previous girlfriends (who when I saw pictures of, all had similar features) all with whom he had very sexual relationships with. This bothers me too. He assures me however that he loves me.
2006-07-24 20:20:03 · 6 answers · asked by Worried 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Do what your heart tells you, if you think you can spend the rest of your life forever forever forever forever and remember that forever is a long time living like this then stay with him, but if you know you need more than just (hey buddy) you need to talk to him and tell him how your feeling maybe he is scared to try sexual things with you, maybe he thinks you wont like it or dont want to try it, be honest with him and tell him how you feel, good luck
2006-07-24 20:45:51 · answer #1 · answered by sweetie1995 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to say bye to him and find a real man that will love you for you and think the world of you. He should have been happy he had a wife that wasn't a run around. They don't realize what they have till it's to late. He takes you for granted because you stay with him even though he doesn't show you affection. Give him a taste of his medicine and leave him and get yourself a new ward robe change your appearance. Find a handsome babe that is loyal and loving. You deserve it. Than your husband can eat is heart out.
2006-07-24 20:32:14 · answer #2 · answered by Humming Bird 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should talk to him about your sex life. The biggest mistake that you can make is discussing his previous relationships. You could be showing him a lack of self-esteem and that can be a turn off. Don't be shy in bed and try different things with your husband. When you said that he calls you "buddy", it worried me! You might need to check up on him occasionally.
2006-07-24 20:44:27 · answer #3 · answered by jewels2078 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he calls you buddy? damn!!! id tell him to take a hike, you deserve better than that. i mean common!! your smart friendly, loyal, and a professional, if none of that gets him to 'sattle up' then he aint worth your time.
2006-07-24 20:40:16 · answer #4 · answered by Seraphiel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get sex counseling for married couples! Soon!
2006-07-24 20:32:48 · answer #5 · answered by Precious 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need answers, you need a divorce. OR you need to ACCEPT him as he is.
2006-07-24 20:24:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋