What do you think of these 13-14 year old girls asking pregnancy questions?

Question

Its easy to point out who the "little ones" are. In fact very easy. I just signed up to this tonight and I love the answers, the immidiate feedback, and the difference in everyone. What hurts is to see these young girls who are barely old enough to shave their own legs out having sex and getting pregnant. Alot of times I think they want to get pregnant, to keep their boyfriends or to get attention, because babies are so cute right? And they babysit so they will be great parents, right? No, that is what they think! I live in Milwaukee and the amount of barely teenage girls here getting pregnant are unreal!
I'm not sure about everywhere else in this country but these girls seem to think its ok. Imagine your boyfriend at 13-14 could you even think of seeing them in your life now? I wouldnt! I feel sorry for them,but it is so frustrating because of their immaturity. With the questions I see on here.Half of these girls dont even know how babies are made. What do you think?

As for the feedback with the 16 year old... When I was 13-14 I had to be home before the streetlights came on, I was alway on time, I never lied to my mom about where I was or what I was doing, because I knew if I told her the truth the image of the street lights would be a thing of the past. I grew up faster learning responsibility, I got a job when I was 13 and worked everyday of my life. I was the youngest ever flight attendant for an airline and the youngest Ground Security Coordinator (GSC) for another. I have had goals and I accomplished them. These are little girls and they need to be at home watching 7th heaven or something. They still call their vaginas pee pee's! They still cut hair on their barbie dolls! And as for you being 16...You can barely drive. You are at the age where you think you know it all, but 16 is just a kid as well. Good luck

Answer 1

I agree with the point of your question. I do think young girls need to be informed of pregnancy and REAL life, not just the cutesy side of it. It is ashamed that there are so many young girls pregnant and they can't even use the "real" words for the organs he and she used to get that way! I live in Mississippi and we're the "teen pregnancy leading state." I don't understand it myself. When I was young, all I cared about was softball and having fun with my friends! Of course, I'm 23 now and about to be married and VERY VERY ready to have a baby. We both have graduated college and started our careers and discussed it thoroughly!

I also agree that some girls do it so they can keep their boyfriends. All it does is make our taxes GO UP even further and cause problems for the parents or soon to be grandparents.

I also think that the magazines, models, and the fashion industry, etc, make these girls think they need to grow up WAY too fast! Today they're children, tomorrow they're on the streets and eventually "knocked up."

Answer 2

First off I'm a teenager, 16 years old to be exact. Parents can't do it all. Although I have put the blame on parents for all this $hit that happens to them/us, however you'd like to phrase it, for a long time. The thing is, is the world is out there, we are being exposed to the real world at a very young age now. Computers are accessible everywhere now, so are a lot of other things. So unless you plan on locking us up in cages, we're gonna be on the internet. I think parents do need to step up, a lot in fact, but that's not going to solve the problem. As for asking the pregnancy questions on here, I'd hope people aren't giving them positive feedback. And if they don't ask the question on here, then the next best thing is getting advice from their best friend who would be just thrilled to be an aunt. All you can do is answer their questions without making them feel inferior. Don't play the "your too little to have babies so go to bed" thing because they just see you as someone who "doesn't understand them". You gotta talk on the same level and explain to them why they shouldn't have babies right now. Besides that, all you can do is pray.

Answer 3

I feel that you may be hitting on something here. I will agree, most people do not understand the awesome responsibility of raising a child. Many may see the "ease" their parents had and see the love they have for babies with which they have limited contact. But, to limit it to early adolescent females may be a mistake.

I think we may have to look at something bigger than age, and I firmly believe that our society plays a role in people wanting to have children. Raising a successful child has become a status symbol: think of the parents that brag about their children. A beautiful, successful child means the parents did something right.

And we all want to be right!

The problem I think you are speaking of is a form of immaturity; more specific, a lack of insight. Certainly, babies are cute as they are young, but the financial and ethical burden does not apply in the real world.

The reason I say that this is bigger than an age gap is that I have witnessed many of my peers (who are in their twenties) fall into the same trap. They believe that having a baby will solve a problem and will bring joy...they do not make preparations for the responsibilities ahead.

But you are correct, immaturity leads to poor decision making. Lets hope we find a way to properly educate our youth in life decisions

Answer 4

Total lack of parental involvement!

Most are from single parent homes with NO discipline or accountability!

I know where my kids are at all times! They DO NOT run the streets like some kids are allowed to do. They are HOME most of the time. When they aren't they are with FAMILY! They rarely if ever go very long to friends house.

My NOW 11 yr old son had a friend last year. Same age as him. Constantly talked about SEX, Blow*jobs, Girlfriends he had at school. Asked MY then 13 yr old daughter if she had ever had sex, been kissed. Asked her if HE could touch her breast!

NEEDLESS to say I contacted the Police Department When he started touching ME in wrong places, Looking down my shirt & then the questions asked to daughter!

FUNNY thing is, his family up & left here & moved to Pennsylvania ALL OF THE SUDDEN TOO!!! Makes ya wonder!!!

This friend had a mother & father in the home BUT they never monitored his where abouts. He and his older brother would be running the streets late at night!

THEY never called to check on him or where he was. Never made sure he had dinner. BUT they did have a HUGE BIG SCREEN TV, The lastest EXPENSIVE PS2 Games, Computers etc!

My kids KNOW about sex, where babies come from, BUT THEY NEVER talk about wanting to HAVE SEX or wanting to be kissed by someone else!!! NO talk about girl/boy friends YET!!!

Answer 5

it scares the crap out of me. Where i am theres the same sort of problem though the average might be slightly higher. One of the main problems here is that you are put further up the housing list if your pregnant (this is something that i used to hear about a lot but guys would joke about being with a young lass (16-19) for the "monday book"-child support) I was considered old when i had kids as i was 25 whereas most are no older than 20
You made valid points about why, which makes it all the sadder when it doesnt go as they wanted. Another thing that scares the crap out of me are the wee ones putting there e-mail addressess up and saying anyone want to chat

Answer 6

I think that if they can have them, why not? I think there should be more responsibility for having children at that age. If 13-14 yos could get jobs and housing good enough to support their kids, and they are mature about this, then there is nothing wrong. However, the most disturbing thing is that they are not committed. You can't stop teens from having sex, but you can teach them to be responsible for their actions and have sex within a committed relationship.

Answer 7

My county has the highest rate of unwed teen mothers in the state.
My feeling is that we let pop culture icons take the lead when we should have had the intestinal fortitude to shut them down.
We have allowed the glorification of ghetto culture and neglected our own values.
There are a LOT of questions asked on here that I wonder aren't being asked of mom, dad, or doctor.
My views are not politically correct (that's soft-pedaling it), but my daughter is 21 and is not an unwed mother. My son has not abandoned babies all over our town, either.

Answer 8

In some instances, some girls didn't have the teaching and structure that we had to know better. Unfortunately it happens. I don't always agree; like you, but 'it' is out there and these girls face it daily. It is not necessarily they immaturity, but the lack of education. I'm glad they ask the questions whether its too late or not. Everyone is confused about something. Lets just empower the girls we can. No one is perfect and everyone makes mistakes.

Answer 9

i really think that a lot of these girls are lacking parenting and guidance, 13 or 14 years old is barely not age for them to have boyfriends, they don't work, don't know responsabilities, much less know what it means to raise a child who will later follow the cycle. a child who is busy with school, family activities, encouragement don't need to get nobody's attention for they have satisfaction, pride and plenty of love at home, a lot of kids like those don't have a united family or smart parents who envision that. i have seen first hand that parents who encourage and support their kids are less likely to deal with pregnant teens, even single parent families. too much freedom, lack of close-follow ups, no discipline, not sit to talk to them, not be strict sometimes all contribute to teenagers to act by themselves. communication, discipline, education and all that starts at home.

Answer 10

They think they want a baby when they are still a baby themselves and I find that their parents are liable for some of it I have a 5 yr old daughter and the thought of her getting pregnant at 13 or 14 scares the hel out of me.